Bender donetat Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 I am writing this topic after finally getting over one of the hardest breakups of my life...... To everyone here, good luck on coping....its not easy i know....however there are some things that helped me get over things. #1. Listen to music about people NOT crying about thier lost relationship but about them being Ok with it...I.E. avril lavigne's happy ending.... #2. Dwell on the BAD things about your relationship and the things the other person did that was hurtful in the end.... #3. Find 2 activities that you can do on a regular basis that are ALL consuming...... #4. DO NOT TALK ABOUT IT, THINK ABOUT IT, OR WONDER "WHAT IF".......these are hard but anytime you DO think about any of these tell yourself "who gives a F**K"........and i mean it.....who cares....they made their decision and reguardless why they made it, it is made....YOU cant change things only they can.... #5. DO NOT blame yourself for whatever reason......who ended it?......most likely they did.....and no matter what you do you cant "change" them. #6. Change something about yourself.......move, get a new job, start working out, redecorate, get a puppy, SOMETHING......it helps draw attention off your "boring old miserable" life (we all have that feeling after a breakup) #7. Stop moping, Dress up and make some new friends.......going out and meeting new people (not necessarily a new partner) will help you get motivated to love yourself and your life again..... I hope this helps......these are the things i did to bring myself out of the depression that was brought about by the end of what i thought was the ONE......... The one lesson i DID learn is this.......no relationship is "forever"......sadly people just arent the same as they were 100 years ago.......when your in a relationship love the relationship....but when it ends just chalk it up to the end of its time, and not anything more.....there will be others and eventually youll find the one that you will "end up with" but cherish the moments of the relationship untill it ends, but expect it to end....most do....if it doesnt consider yourself lucky! Guess it goes down to the ole addage......Expect the worst, hope for the best......youll never be sorry with this outlook.....(but in this dont dwell on the fact that it WILL absolutely 100% end someday, that in itself will perpetuate the end). Hope this helps someone, i wish i had read it when i was hurting so bad....
DESI Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 Thanks that did help me to read that you never thought you would get over your ex but now you are. All of these tips are good, but just like everything else they are all easier said then done. What has helped me is to try to keep myself busy, but I hate being by myself even if its only for like 2 hours, I try to talk to as many people as I can, try to go out as much as I can, if I sit at home by myself my ex is all that I think about. I know one day just like you I will be completely over it. And then this will all happen over and over again
Author Bender donetat Posted October 17, 2004 Author Posted October 17, 2004 Easier said than done......yep i know.... But when i remembered these things it made it all the easier....keep knowing that eventually youll be aiight.....good luck!
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