ladydesigner Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 Well on the initial DDay I kicked him out. I had dealt with his inappropriate behavior for years with no proof of actual A, but with this DDay I did and it confirmed every suspicion I ever had about him. Then came DDay2 and DDay3. It was at this point that I had to ask why he still remained with me. I let him know that I was not okay with being a part of the triangle. Him and MOW were okay with it (I guess). I told him he needed to make a choice and each and every time he stayed with me. Well here comes... DDay4... Done! Finito! I didn't care anymore. The lack of respect for me astounded me. I told him to leave, he would not leave. We slept in separate rooms and I had an appointment set with a lawyer that week. WH still tried to engage me in his madness so I checked myself into inpatient to help try to detach from him and adjust my meds. He has been a changed man since then, I'm not sure why or what happened, but he resembles more of the man I met than the man he became and I hope the man he becomes is even better.
2sure Posted July 8, 2013 Posted July 8, 2013 I asked and I sincerely wanted him to have a life, with or without me, that would make him happy. I asked because if there was something I felt I could change or help him with, I would. He wanted to cheat. It didn't make him happy. It was like eating Chinese for him, he was only satisfied a short time. He is also pretty fat now, by the way. But yes, I wanted him to be happy, I adored him.
thomasb Posted July 9, 2013 Posted July 9, 2013 My wife never stopped making me happy. The affair happened because of my stupidity not because of anything my wife said, did, or any problem in my marriage. It happened because of me. Something missing in me. I was ecstatic that my wife let me back into our home and into her life and heart again. I was miserable when we were separated and appalled by what had happened. I wanted desperately to make it up to her and the children 3
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