ChristosForever Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 Hello all, I am in a desparate situation here. I will be 32 y/o next month and have never been married or have children. The main reason being that either the men I dated loved me more than I loved them, therefore I did not want to marry them. Or when I finally meet someone that I love (after 10 years of not being in love with anyone), I seem to be the one who loves him more. Therefore, nothing is happening on that front either... Should I just give up on love altogether? My birthday is coming as well as the holidays and I decided not to celebrate either. I am just sick and tired of not being with someone that I love for these occasions. Plus I will not subject myself to be the laughing stock of my family, being the only woman not married. Please help, I am christian and have prayed God but He doesn't seem to want to hear me at all.
kellyp1 Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 I am 33 y/o (just turned it) and constantly hear from insensitive relatives how I am not married and to keep looking etc... My reality is, I was engaged to be married about 9 years ago and haven't met anyone serious since. I get picked up on a lot and have been dating the same guy for 8 months, but we are still not boyfriend and girlfriend (his personal issues). I have fallen in love with him but have not lost myself in it. I did low key celebration for my birthday this year and it went past pretty quietly. I am tired of all my friends (who by now are all couples) getting together, telling me how great I am and how none of them can believe I am single. With that said, I still believe in love. I know someday it will happen for me and at the worst, if it does not, I am richer for having my friends around who do care and believe in me and my ability to be loved. The key is don't feel sorry for yourself and know that at least a part of all your married friends are jealous that you are still free to make your own decisions. Take yourself out to a movie that you like every once in a while. Know that you are a great woman and that your time to be married has just not come yet.
Author ChristosForever Posted October 15, 2004 Author Posted October 15, 2004 Thanks for sharing your story. I know at least that I'm not the only one in this situation. My situation is pretty much the same, but I have at least 1 girlfriend who is in my situation. Although I don't envy any of my married friends and cousins (for example, my best friend got married to a drunk and violent man who cheated on her because she feared being alone!), it would still be nice to be loved by someone that you love....oh well... Again thank you Kelly for your words. They will surely help me get through the day! Have a nice one!
Papillon Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 A marriage turns into a slow steady burn, anyway, so it does not really matter in the long run. I don't think it's possible for two people to love each other EQUALLY, if you want to get pedantic. But it should satisfy both partners. Just love with everything you have, and that is enough.
CurlyIam Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 But it should satisfy both partners. Just love with everything you have, and that is enough. That is really wonderfully put! It expresses just want I wanted to say. Instead of concerntating wholoves more or who loves less, the simple act of loving someone should feel your heart with joy! concentrate on loving, not on who gives whom how much...
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