Hopeinme Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 After dumping me, he still kept me on facebook. I just realised he has blocked me from seeing his posts. Idiot. I think i finally hate him. Urgh sooo angry.
Toddbt12y1 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 After dumping me, he still kept me on facebook. I just realised he has blocked me from seeing his posts. Idiot. I think i finally hate him. Urgh sooo angry. I'd consider it a blessing. Block him. If you hadn't. Or remove him, if you hadn't. This is a time for regrowth. Re-arrangement. Emotional growth and strengthening. Rather than be angry over someone blocking you. I'll read your past history real fast.
Author Hopeinme Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 Thanks for that. As much as I really dont want to do that, I do not want to stoop to his level.
Emilia Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Thanks for that. As much as I really dont want to do that, I do not want to stoop to his level. ? I don't understand what he did wrong
Author Hopeinme Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 It annoys me how he wants to see my posts but blocks me from seeing his. I fint it akl very childish.
Emilia Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 It annoys me how he wants to see my posts but blocks me from seeing his. I fint it akl very childish. So? He is nothing to you anymore so delete, block, detach. Simple. What or why he does something isn't your concern. 1
chinacat sunflower Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 My ex and I were FB friends for while post break up. I had a feeling he was creeping on my page, so I blocked him from seeing a bunch of my stuff. He unfriended me the next day. If I were you, I would deactivate my account for awhile, and reactivate when the dust settles. That's if you have hopes of reconciling. If not, got ahead and block away.
mammasita Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 first thing you should have done when he dumped you is unfriend and block. Shame on you for not doing that. Do it now.
Author Hopeinme Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 My ex and I were FB friends for while post break up. I had a feeling he was creeping on my page, so I blocked him from seeing a bunch of my stuff. He unfriended me the next day. If I were you, I would deactivate my account for awhile, and reactivate when the dust settles. That's if you have hopes of reconciling. If not, got ahead and block away. Yea I did that Feels good!
Author Hopeinme Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 first thing you should have done when he dumped you is unfriend and block. Shame on you for not doing that. Do it now. Done. Thanks
CorridorE Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 It annoys me how he wants to see my posts but blocks me from seeing his. I fint it akl very childish. If he blocked you, he can't see any of your posts either.
Author Hopeinme Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 If he blocked you, he can't see any of your posts either. He blocked me from seeing updates on his feed. He can def still see my posts because I have blocked people from seeing my ypdates and I can still see theirs. I find it so chilidish of him. Seriously, he calls himself a 38 yr old?
maturityassets Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 I did the same to my ex. I have her as a friend on facebook because she requested me about a month ago and I figure after a few weeks, I said I wasn't going to make it a game. I said I would accept it if she requested me again one day so just better to keep to my word because I really don't care anymore what she intends on doing in the future. I did though restrict her from seeing my post not because I care if she is stalking me, but it was for my own sake. To know that I wasn't posting anything to make her jealous or get satisfaction that she might take attention to my new relationship or show I'm having a good time without her. It was really my own decision to know, that its impossible of me to actually get her jealous with anything I do.... Unless she goes out of her way and asks her sister or friends to see what I've been up to, I can't help with that.
Author Hopeinme Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 I did the same to my ex. I have her as a friend on facebook because she requested me about a month ago and I figure after a few weeks, I said I wasn't going to make it a game. I said I would accept it if she requested me again one day so just better to keep to my word because I really don't care anymore what she intends on doing in the future. I did though restrict her from seeing my post not because I care if she is stalking me, but it was for my own sake. To know that I wasn't posting anything to make her jealous or get satisfaction that she might take attention to my new relationship or show I'm having a good time without her. It was really my own decision to know, that its impossible of me to actually get her jealous with anything I do.... Unless she goes out of her way and asks her sister or friends to see what I've been up to, I can't help with that. Ahh.... That's really nice of you to do that! Maybe my ex did it for the sane readons too.
Oldcatskinner Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Hopeinme, Several months ago, after our final fight, I was in emotional hell. Throughout it all, my ex and I remained facebook friends. I don't know what her reasoning in it was, but mine was that I would not be petty and delete her; I thought that that would be childish. After a few weeks of hearing nothing from her after several attempts on my end, I realized that salvaging the relationship was not going to happen, and I was hopelessly depressed, panicky, and generally miserable. It was then that I realized that I did not want to continue to be miserable, and that moving on from the relationship was in my best interest. However, I also realized that my ex was a drug to me. When we were together, we would get along great (for the most part). Our troubles would start when we would be away from each other (LDR). I realized that I needed her, and she didn't need me. I am the type to go into an endeavor with all the stops out, and breaking up was no different. I burned the cards and letters she sent, deleted her out of my phone, deleted her emails and contact information out of my mailbox. Facebook was the last to go. I wavered for about two days whether or not to block her. I thought that this would be my way of letting her know that the door was open for her should she care to contact me. What this did for me was constantly worry "what happens if I see her picture with some guy", "what do I do if she ends up in a relationship before I am over her". This is not a good feeling (I was the dumpee). So, I made up my mind, calmly walked to my computer, and blocked her. And it was over. I broke up with her in my mind. No more worries about my concerns. I loved this girl, and was dead set on marrying her. I told her that so many times. And in the end, to heal from a breakup, it doesn't matter if you are the dumper or dumpee, you have to break up with that person in your heart and in your mind. What the key thesis of this story is: Don't read too much into why your ex behaved the way he did. He is dealing with a breakup in a way he knows how to at the present time. Look at the positives-you are one more degree of freedom away from your ex. Deal with the breakup in the way you know how, and live a dignified life. Sounds awful, and it is, at first. But it is necessary. Strong medicine. Hang in there. 1
Author Hopeinme Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 Hopeinme, Several months ago, after our final fight, I was in emotional hell. Throughout it all, my ex and I remained facebook friends. I don't know what her reasoning in it was, but mine was that I would not be petty and delete her; I thought that that would be childish. After a few weeks of hearing nothing from her after several attempts on my end, I realized that salvaging the relationship was not going to happen, and I was hopelessly depressed, panicky, and generally miserable. It was then that I realized that I did not want to continue to be miserable, and that moving on from the relationship was in my best interest. However, I also realized that my ex was a drug to me. When we were together, we would get along great (for the most part). Our troubles would start when we would be away from each other (LDR). I realized that I needed her, and she didn't need me. I am the type to go into an endeavor with all the stops out, and breaking up was no different. I burned the cards and letters she sent, deleted her out of my phone, deleted her emails and contact information out of my mailbox. Facebook was the last to go. I wavered for about two days whether or not to block her. I thought that this would be my way of letting her know that the door was open for her should she care to contact me. What this did for me was constantly worry "what happens if I see her picture with some guy", "what do I do if she ends up in a relationship before I am over her". This is not a good feeling (I was the dumpee). So, I made up my mind, calmly walked to my computer, and blocked her. And it was over. I broke up with her in my mind. No more worries about my concerns. I loved this girl, and was dead set on marrying her. I told her that so many times. And in the end, to heal from a breakup, it doesn't matter if you are the dumper or dumpee, you have to break up with that person in your heart and in your mind. What the key thesis of this story is: Don't read too much into why your ex behaved the way he did. He is dealing with a breakup in a way he knows how to at the present time. Look at the positives-you are one more degree of freedom away from your ex. Deal with the breakup in the way you know how, and live a dignified life. Sounds awful, and it is, at first. But it is necessary. Strong medicine. Hang in there. You are so strong! I am glad you go through the emotional hell I hope and I know I will be like you someday. Thanks for the great advice xx
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