Author sweetkiwi Posted August 10, 2013 Author Posted August 10, 2013 Sure... and some people are also very passive-aggressive about how they inform their partners about their FWB status and what that entails rather than discuss it directly. Sounds like both of them have a few issues that way. I think it was uncouth and careless for her to leave her Facebook open AND... better yet... use his computer. MmmIf she's going to use Facebook to troll for other dates/hookups and flirt with her guy friends, she can do it on her own time on someone else's equipment... not his computer. To me that shows HER lack of maturity. THAT is what I'd tell her if I were him. Maybe he has... and she just assumes he's jealous and writes it off instead of just cleaning up her act when it comes to showing some small measure of respect for her sex partner. Though this is an old thread and the "situation" is done I can't ignore this complete lack of comprehension. He knew from day one that this wasn't serious. Yes. I liked him as a person. But I didn't want a romantic relationship. He accepted this then tried to change the rules, which I clearly laid out. Please let's just assume I know what I want and have the balls to voice it . I used his computer to contact my grandfather because my grandmother just got a mastectomy. I was not using it to troll for dates. Don't have to. The conversation I had which was sexual was months before I met him. He didn't even read the timestamp. He saw the words and freaked. Then saw I was talking to my ex and freaked because I said I could ask him, my former lover, to help me with something, and my ex made a joke in bad taste. Which I reprimanded him for. The FL, former lover, failed to be thorough in his snooping and missed the part where I said he was a great guy and a good match, however not romantically. I realize it's very easy to assume and not as easy to comprehend. BUT I saw his jealousy first hand. So don't insult my intelligence and tell me I am assuming something that is so obvious I can taste it.
RedRobin Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 Though this is an old thread and the "situation" is done I can't ignore this complete lack of comprehension. He knew from day one that this wasn't serious. Yes. I liked him as a person. But I didn't want a romantic relationship. He accepted this then tried to change the rules, which I clearly laid out. Please let's just assume I know what I want and have the balls to voice it . I used his computer to contact my grandfather because my grandmother just got a mastectomy. I was not using it to troll for dates. Don't have to. The conversation I had which was sexual was months before I met him. He didn't even read the timestamp. He saw the words and freaked. Then saw I was talking to my ex and freaked because I said I could ask him, my former lover, to help me with something, and my ex made a joke in bad taste. Which I reprimanded him for. The FL, former lover, failed to be thorough in his snooping and missed the part where I said he was a great guy and a good match, however not romantically. I realize it's very easy to assume and not as easy to comprehend. BUT I saw his jealousy first hand. So don't insult my intelligence and tell me I am assuming something that is so obvious I can taste it. Just calling it like I see it. If this is such an old issue, then no need to revisit it. However, since you have... I'll advise that you would be wise to learn some discretion and diplomacy in your interactions with lovers and former lovers... especially if you care to keep them among your social circle. Use your own computer to stay in touch, for instance. Take care to avoid situations that would cause distress in most normal people. Really, it's just being polite. ... and if you feel you've done that, then you can walk away or end the relationship without feeling undue stress... Sounds like you have already.
FitChick Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 I took this interesting psychoanalytical test regarding what type of man would best fit with me and it said a protective sensitive type..... That sounds like fun. I like taking tests. Where is it? Link please. Perhaps start a new thread because I'm sure lots of people would like to take that test as well. Is there a similar test for men to find out what type of woman would suit them? Can't neglect the men!
Author sweetkiwi Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 Just calling it like I see it. If this is such an old issue, then no need to revisit it. However, since you have... I'll advise that you would be wise to learn some discretion and diplomacy in your interactions with lovers and former lovers... especially if you care to keep them among your social circle. Use your own computer to stay in touch, for instance. Take care to avoid situations that would cause distress in most normal people. Really, it's just being polite. ... and if you feel you've done that, then you can walk away or end the relationship without feeling undue stress... Sounds like you have already. I was adopted by his social circle. Now that it's over, I am out. It's fine. And normally I would use my own computer but my smart phone was busted. He insisted I use his to talk to my family about my grandmother's condition. It's not something I normally do as I value my privacy. Anyway. Yes. It is done. I have learned many lessons from this situation. And caused much harm where none was intended. It is regrettable. And I feel terrible about the emotional havoc its wreaked on him and his small son.
Author sweetkiwi Posted August 11, 2013 Author Posted August 11, 2013 That sounds like fun. I like taking tests. Where is it? Link please. Perhaps start a new thread because I'm sure lots of people would like to take that test as well. Is there a similar test for men to find out what type of woman would suit them? Can't neglect the men! I can't remember but I am sure you can google it and see what pops up.
RedRobin Posted August 11, 2013 Posted August 11, 2013 (edited) I was adopted by his social circle. Now that it's over, I am out. It's fine. And normally I would use my own computer but my smart phone was busted. He insisted I use his to talk to my family about my grandmother's condition. It's not something I normally do as I value my privacy. Anyway. Yes. It is done. I have learned many lessons from this situation. And caused much harm where none was intended. It is regrettable. And I feel terrible about the emotional havoc its wreaked on him and his small son. Not sure why you felt the need to bring this back up if it was over... You don't have anything to prove to me. Although... I'd like to think you feel terrible enough to stop calling your FBs and FWBs 'lovers'?? Sounds a little confusing to me. Sounds like romance to me. ... and get a handle on your former 'lovers' enough to demonstrate respect for your current one(s)? At the least, you could have just logged-out and not left it open. Or set things up in your FB so they can't post on your wall. That would do it. Anyway, water under the bridge... Edited August 11, 2013 by RedRobin
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