will1988 Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Sorry to hear about this kiwi... it seems that Rythem and I are the only dudes who trully understand you. lol. Tell him he is being a little biotch and if he doesn't man up you are moving on. 3
Author sweetkiwi Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 Sorry to hear about this kiwi... it seems that Rythem and I are the only dudes who trully understand you. lol. Tell him he is being a little biotch and if he doesn't man up you are moving on. There's a word in Italian, "permalosso" which means overly sensitive male, and he knows that's what he is, or at least how he's been behaving. When the jealousy thing first reared it's ugly head I told him I didn't like that and he made excuses about his Sicilian heritage and that's how the men are and blah blah. I don't give a **** if your grandpappy was the president of JealousyCorp, it poisons all relationships. He knew my stance and he continued making stupid comments about men and women to try and make ME jealous. I have told him that he needs to grow up and be more mature than a woman 15 years his junior. But honestly I don't see it happening. And maybe there's some girl/woman out there that will like his jealous immature ways. Boh. No idea. Certainly not me. 2
therhythm Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Exactly. This has been a major factor in my breakups to date. I find it very unfortunate because I'm not concerned about my looks as much as the men I am with seem to be. I think the issue is the insecurity and somehow an inferiority feeling that is making those people feel that they are not enough to keep you in their life and that fear is what makes them distrust you and become controlling... It is not your fault... it is just how things works and I am sure there will be that guy who will not feel threatened every time you smile another guy... My advise is to be a bit more selective and make some tests in the early dating to see how those guys react... it hasn't worked out for me yet But I am sure it will work one day! 1
will1988 Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 There's a word in Italian, "permalosso" which means overly sensitive male, and he knows that's what he is, or at least how he's been behaving. When the jealousy thing first reared it's ugly head I told him I didn't like that and he made excuses about his Sicilian heritage and that's how the men are and blah blah. I don't give a **** if your grandpappy was the president of JealousyCorp, it poisons all relationships. He knew my stance and he continued making stupid comments about men and women to try and make ME jealous. I have told him that he needs to grow up and be more mature than a woman 15 years his junior. But honestly I don't see it happening. And maybe there's some girl/woman out there that will like his jealous immature ways. Boh. No idea. Certainly not me. As a man of partial sicilian heritage I take offense to what your bf said! Then again, I'm 'murkin, so that probably weeded out all of the possible "permalosso" blood out'a me! . I am glad you are standing up for yourself. Maybe you need to come back state side and find a real man! 1
Emilia Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 There's a word in Italian, "permalosso" which means overly sensitive male, and he knows that's what he is, or at least how he's been behaving. When the jealousy thing first reared it's ugly head I told him I didn't like that and he made excuses about his Sicilian heritage and that's how the men are and blah blah. I don't give a **** if your grandpappy was the president of JealousyCorp, it poisons all relationships. He knew my stance and he continued making stupid comments about men and women to try and make ME jealous. Ah the old 'macho' argument. Just an excuse for emotional men, the same goes for 'passionate'. Passionate = loves drama. 5
Author sweetkiwi Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 I think the issue is the insecurity and somehow an inferiority feeling that is making those people feel that they are not enough to keep you in their life and that fear is what makes them distrust you and become controlling... It is not your fault... it is just how things works and I am sure there will be that guy who will not feel threatened every time you smile another guy... My advise is to be a bit more selective and make some tests in the early dating to see how those guys react... it hasn't worked out for me yet But I am sure it will work one day! Yes!! With my first ex I was so madly in love with him, still am, but he began to get insanely jealous and then physically aggressive around me that I had to end the relationship out of fear. I won't pretend I am not jealous at all, I have been in the past, it feels awful and isn't something I dwell on now. I am the kind of girl who is usually smiling and kind. That doesn't mean I am attracted to the old man making my cafe at the bar!!! Just that I am a happy person!! FHUCK As a man of partial sicilian heritage I take offense to what your bf said! Then again, I'm 'murkin, so that probably weeded out all of the possible "permalosso" blood out'a me! . I am glad you are standing up for yourself. Maybe you need to come back state side and find a real man! Will, I highly doubt there are more "real men" in good 'ol 'Merica. I kinda just want to get tied up a bit and explore BDSM again without all the messy love crap. 2
Author sweetkiwi Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 ah the old 'macho' argument. Just an excuse for emotional men, the same goes for 'passionate'. Passionate = loves drama. omfg right!!!? 1
Emilia Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 I kinda just want to get tied up a bit and explore BDSM again without all the messy love crap. why not just cut through the c**p 1
therhythm Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Yes!! With my first ex I was so madly in love with him, still am, but he began to get insanely jealous and then physically aggressive around me that I had to end the relationship out of fear. I won't pretend I am not jealous at all, I have been in the past, it feels awful and isn't something I dwell on now. I am the kind of girl who is usually smiling and kind. That doesn't mean I am attracted to the old man making my cafe at the bar!!! Just that I am a happy person!! FHUCK Will, I highly doubt there are more "real men" in good 'ol 'Merica. I kinda just want to get tied up a bit and explore BDSM again without all the messy love crap. Yes, enjoy single time and do some experimentation till a keeper shows up. I have to admit that sometimes I question myself why would I want to just get a commitment relationship but I also have to admit that when you get to love someone the relationship and intimacy gets to totally different levels ... Good luck to with the BDSM... It is a pity that I can't e-spank you 2
Author sweetkiwi Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 why not just cut through the c**p Oh girl you know I have sky high standards when it comes to BDSM. The Italian Dom has ruined me forever in that regard. He wants to play but I've been sick and tried my hand at a vanilla relationship. Updates soon . 2
Author sweetkiwi Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 Yes, enjoy single time and do some experimentation till a keeper shows up. I have to admit that sometimes I question myself why would I want to just get a commitment relationship but I also have to admit that when you get to love someone the relationship and intimacy gets to totally different levels ... Good luck to with the BDSM... It is a pity that I can't e-spank you I really enjoy being in a good relationship. I am a caretaker by nature. I love to nurture and am someone who does things for those I care for. When I am single that focus gets lost a bit. Spanking is fun but I much prefer bites. I've had two big ones for four months now that aren't going away. I catch myself rubbing them in remembrance . 2
will1988 Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 I really enjoy being in a good relationship. I am a caretaker by nature. I love to nurture and am someone who does things for those I care for. When I am single that focus gets lost a bit. Spanking is fun but I much prefer bites. I've had two big ones for four months now that aren't going away. I catch myself rubbing them in remembrance . Well if I was single and you came here or vice versa I'd be more than happy to oblige you Kiwi, but you already knew that. 2
therhythm Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 I really enjoy being in a good relationship. I am a caretaker by nature. I love to nurture and am someone who does things for those I care for. When I am single that focus gets lost a bit. Spanking is fun but I much prefer bites. I've had two big ones for four months now that aren't going away. I catch myself rubbing them in remembrance . I think your nurturing character may be your problem too as you may choose partners who are dependent on you and the dependence is what generates the fear to lose you... I am just speculating here anyway... 2
Author sweetkiwi Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 why do you keep dating the same type if you know you dont like the way they are. start dating guys that you wouldn't date normally. and a grown men acting like 20??? but you dont want to feel like you got the pents on? you are contradicting yourself. because he is not grown if he is acting like that// and shore you will have to have the balls then. Start dating guys I don't normally date...? Nope, terrible advice. I'll keep dating nice guys thanks. So him being 42 and behaving like he's 20 at times means I am contradicting myself? 1
Author sweetkiwi Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 I think your nurturing character may be your problem too as you may choose partners who are dependent on you and the dependence is what generates the fear to lose you... I am just speculating here anyway... Certainly makes sense Dr. Rhythm!! But I really am not sure how to change that about myself, and I don't think I even WANT to!! I hope one day a man will come along that will accept all of me and not focus on the aspects of my personality that benefit him subconsciously. Or is that too much to ask for . 2
therhythm Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Certainly makes sense Dr. Rhythm!! But I really am not sure how to change that about myself, and I don't think I even WANT to!! I hope one day a man will come along that will accept all of me and not focus on the aspects of my personality that benefit him subconsciously. Or is that too much to ask for . Not to much to ask but in reality I see how the problem can come from there... I am a very protective guy (I grow up with two younger siblings (twins) and I often choose for more dependent women as I like to take care of them.. it is something that it is intrinsic of my personality as nurturing is of yours... it creates the same kind of issues and ends in the same kind of disappointments... 1
Author sweetkiwi Posted June 25, 2013 Author Posted June 25, 2013 Not to much to ask but in reality I see how the problem can come from there... I am a very protective guy (I grow up with two younger siblings (twins) and I often choose for more dependent women as I like to take care of them.. it is something that it is intrinsic of my personality as nurturing is of yours... it creates the same kind of issues and ends in the same kind of disappointments... You can take care of me . I'm the eldest of 6 so that'd be a big change for me!! 2
pteromom Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Hate gender roles, why does the guy have to lead the relationship, be the leader? He doesn't have to lead the relationship, but he has to be honest, secure in who he is, and be able to communicate his feelings and thoughts.
therhythm Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 You can take care of me . I'm the eldest of 6 so that'd be a big change for me!! Bring it on kiwi... I would take you to intensive care :D after a session with me 2
MissBee Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 So I've been dating this really sweet guy for less than a month. He's considerate, kind, affectionate, giving, handsome, all that good stuff. Except...he is 15 years older than I am and acts like he's 20. He gets jealous and pretends he's not, takes jokes very seriously, and has even changed his habits from small things I joked about or mentioned. It is hard to put it into words but I feel like once again I am the one with the balls in the relationship, which is NOT what I want. Tried to talk about what was bothering me but I get cut off. He's even gotten jealous of my recent LDR ex and asked if he's "the reason we don't have sex anymore"..... No. I just got out of the hospital and my vagina is dry from all the meds and his girl like ways are making it dry up like the damn Sahara. *Rant complete. Leave suggestions on how to approach at the end of this message. Only serious entries will be considered.* What's so great about him? You mentioned a couple things...but for me, once I get to a point where your bad qualities are that annoying that I have to rant about it on LS or to friends, I usually don't think further investment is necessary. Usually at 1 month you're all giddy and in love and the annoying qualities haven't come up yet. It's not been that long and you already have lots to complain about...maybe it's not meant to be taken further. What are you looking for with him? 1
Author sweetkiwi Posted June 26, 2013 Author Posted June 26, 2013 Bring it on kiwi... I would take you to intensive care :D after a session with me Mmmmm I've worn out a couple of pro's, I think I can take you on too big boy. 1
will1988 Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Rhythm you are in the Netherlands, Kiwi you are in Italy.... both single (or soon to be ) Why don't you both put your money where your mouth is (rather, genitles) and fornicate the hell out of each other! jeesh! I want to see the video though, for historical research purposes, of course. Kiwi define nice guy? your guy seems like the classical example of a weak nice guy, like a guy who would come on here on to LS and biotch about being friend zoned / led on for being too nice. You need to go after guys who are nice in all the right ways, but confident, a little arogant and push, but loyal and honest, and giving... so a nice guy who is comfortable in his own skin and is not a push over. I'm such a guy, but taken, i am sure im not the only one like this out there. i dunno the whole crying nice guy thing some guys do ticks me off.. lol. 2
therhythm Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Mmmmm I've worn out a couple of pro's, I think I can take you on too big boy. be careful what you wish for ... it can turn true :lmao: 1
Robert Z Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Mmmmm I've worn out a couple of pro's, I think I can take you on too big boy. Uh oh, I think you might have met your match, therhythm. 2
Robert Z Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 Hate gender roles, why does the guy have to lead the relationship, be the leader? Don't worry. That all ends at the altar! 2
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