bolase Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I met this guy a year ago at my work where he was doing some volunteering. He started working with us a few months ago and him and I get on really well. We are both 27. We just had an amazing beautiful time, but there are things that really make me anxious.... Without much flirting or anything building up to it, he asked if I wanted to come over for dinner on the weekend, which I accepted. We just hung out until the last possible moment, then he asked if he could kiss me, we made out for hours, and as I'd been drinking I ended up staying there in his bed, nothing beyond some heavy making out as I told him I was just comfortable with that. He was definitely a gentleman, said several times how surprised he was, that this was the most fun he'd had in a long time (I replied that that was cliche, which is unbelievably rude and I wish I hadn't said it...I was so taken aback tho), and in the morning he said he liked me and didn't feel that way often. I really like him. In my head, I am about to stop it here and now though - I don't want the awkwardness of dating someone at work (we are in the same room. He is a smoker and I felt quite sick in the morning and clothes smelled of smoke; not something I am used to (our bars/clubs are smokefree). He was in a relationship of many years and they just broke up 2 months ago. He never wants to get married, I might, I'm unsure. Should I pursue it to see where it goes?
MidwestUSA Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Not if smoking is a deal breaker for you. And not if you don't have a job that you can easily move on from. And the views on marriage? You have three deal breakers right in front of you (or they would be for me). JMHO. (And the fresh out of a relationship status makes four). 2
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 He's rebounding and bsing you, plus there's good enough reasons not to pursue this the first place, bad idea all around....in conclusion that means you'll probably pursue it! Ahhhhhhh, women...hopefully he'll mess it up, for your sake. 1
Author bolase Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 He briefly dated right after the break up.. but the rest of the things are concerns. I don't know how you think he was bs'ing, though. He isn't really a bs-er.
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