Ex Girlfriend of 6 Years Left Me For Someone Else (Depression)

[mbgeezle]

Not sure if you are aware of it or not, but it is a medical fact that there is a chemical change causing euphoria for the first 18-24 months of "being in love".

 

After that the chemical change begins to regress and the "honeymoon" so to speak is over.

 

It is during these first 18-24 months that are important to build on the foundations of a relationship so that when the euphoria subsides there is enough meat or foundation left to the relationship to make it last.

 

Perhaps it is just another sign of drug use and she may jump from relationship to relationship for many years to come as she "self-medicates".

 

We where together 6 years so we went way past that stage. So your saying she'll feel this butterfly feeling for 18-24 months even with all her mental health issues and the fact she left a 6 year relationship, acted completely normal with me, still the I love yous, false promises etc, and jumped straight into a new relationship. Obviously no one can say what will happen with her, but surely the foundations on which she started this relationship are the most shaky I've ever heard. Lying and ignoring her way out of our relationship, and lied her way into one with this new guy. Recipe for disaster IMO.

 

I need to stop focusing on her. I love the damn girl and it actually frustrates me. I don't see that as codependant, I see it as caring about a girl I spent 6 years with and knowing all she has been through. Her behaviour towards me and the using of my good nature is unforgivable and I do understand I shouldn't care. But it's easier said than done I'm afraid. I care a little less, and think a little less about her everyday. What I picture is her telling me things which I now no to be lies, promising to do things which she never did, telling me she loved me, getting on much better, thanks for everything you've done for me etc. How can someone do that to you. I don't care how much of a 'mess' I was, I would never do that to anybody. Especially after how I stuck by her when most men would of ran when the drinking episodes started. I was angry with her at times but I always stuck by her. I wouldn't of left her. She needed me, so she said, and I fulfilled that need. I'm just heartbroken how sfter 6 years together she could do that to me. After all we've been through and came out stronger, she does this. I don't have a clue how to date, how to meet women, how to chat women up, how to approach them because I've never had to. I've always had her. Me and her against the world.