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Oh man, this is going to sound so stupid. I randomly created a profile on a dating website tonight and I'm already getting hits! I didn't even upload a picture yet... just wrote stuff. Now I'm terrified! I guess I just haven't really tackled the dating world since my last attempt w/a guy at my office, so I'm scared of the type of guys I'd meet online. I've never done online dating and have always just filtered guys I'd want to date based on multiple 'hang out' type interactions. I guess messaging is the equivalent? I dunno. It feels weird to go on 'dates'. For those who have tried online dating, do you have any advice for a newbie? I don't really know what to expect.

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If you get hits then just talk to them for a little while on the site, then move to fb (I add them on fb to know they have friends and see more pics and most of the time we have mutual friends who can vouch for them) then message on fb a little then text then go out... it seems like a long process but it weeds them out kind of. IDK I do decent with OLD you just have to be careful, meet in public carry pepper spray or a gun (if you have a ccw lol) idk thats all I do and obviously I am not the dating model or anything but I have dated from websites and it has worked in some cases... kind of.

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Ah OLD as a female...

 

You could essentially look like THIS and you'll still have a 100 messages by this evening.

 

I hope you're ready to try to keep up with replies, in fact....don't bother trying.

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Well, you were right, I did get a few hits! The only problem is that since I'm not a paid member I can't look at their pictures, so I'm scared of replying back. Is it worth it to pay..? I've heard horror stories of people getting auto-renewed terrible amounts of money.

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Ah OLD as a female...

 

You could essentially look like THIS and you'll still have a 100 messages by this evening.

 

I hope you're ready to try to keep up with replies, in fact....don't bother trying.

 

:laugh:

 

I think you're stretching it a bit there...lol

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Haha, oh my god MERLIN!

:lmao: You watch Merlin?

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You get so many messages only in the beginning, later they slow down significantly. Some tips: don't get into endless conversations, if a guy doesn't ask you out after 5-6 messages exchanged, stop answering; don't go into textfests, i.e. don't text with someone for days and days and days; wait a few hours before you reply to the first message and generally don't instantly reply to messages; keep your first dates short (under two hours); do not sleep with anyone at the first date; only agree to public dates; if a guy says ANYTHING about sex via email that's all he wants, delete him; don't contact to say thank you after the first date, let them contact you first; don't contact them to ask them out after any of the dates (until you are in a relationship); expect that 90% of the first dates don't go anywhere; don't be anxious expect that it'll take a few months up to 2 yrs to find a relationship; expand your search area to multiple dating sites and go to real life singles events as well; don't wonder why a guy didn't call you back, it doesn't matter, just move on fast; hold on the sex until you are sure the guy has the same romantic goals as you (unless your goals are ONS or FWB). I guess that's what comes to mind. Good luck!

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:lmao: You watch Merlin?

 

 

:o I do too. Loved that episode btw (the troll episode)

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Ah OLD as a female...

 

You could essentially look like THIS and you'll still have a 100 messages by this evening.

 

I hope you're ready to try to keep up with replies, in fact....don't bother trying.

 

 

I hear guys say stuff like this all the time......I didn't get hits at all (excpet for the messages asking if I"d like to give them a bj or have random sex)....

 

I hate to think I'm grosser than the thing in that picture!!!!!

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:o I do too. Loved that episode btw (the troll episode)

 

Yes! I could not believe how much I ended up loving that show.

 

Did not think it would be popular outside England :laugh:. Yeah, I surprisingly enjoyed it too.

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I watched it because anthonY stewart head. Though I lost track of it after a couple seasons

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For those who have tried online dating, do you have any advice for a newbie?

 

Read the 100 page sticky thread at the top of this forum.

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Well, you were right, I did get a few hits! The only problem is that since I'm not a paid member I can't look at their pictures, so I'm scared of replying back. Is it worth it to pay..? I've heard horror stories of people getting auto-renewed terrible amounts of money.

 

I wonder if you're being swindled. I've heard some sites send out fake messages in order to get people to pay, just to find out they weren't real.

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