Pietersen Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I've been going out for 6 months with my girlfriend and we go to the same university. At the beginning of our relationship...everything was great- we'd hang out so much doing assignments, going on dates, sleeping over at each other's dorms. We'd also skype a lot when we were apart from one another. However, after the first year of university ended, the both of us got summer jobs...and we've busy. We have to wake up at 5:30 and we come home at around 7 in the evening (mainly because of the commute). We barely get to spend any time together and it really bums me out. Before, even when we were busy during work, after coming home we'd still skype alot. Lately though, she seems to be okay with talking only for a significantly lower amount of time. She doesn't want to "set a skype time" either. Recently, we went on a date together (it's really hard to see her in person because her parents are really strict and they don't know about us) and I told her I missed seeing her and skyping with her. She said that she wasn't afraid of us drifting apart and that she knew about her feelings for me. She also said that at the end of the day...we'd always come back to each other- it doesn't matter how long we'd talk to each other for. I don't know what to do...I mean- I've tried to talk to her and she's always saying these things. I feel like she's being really mature about it and I'm not..but I miss her so much. I know she loves me but she's a lot more independent then me. The thing is, before we'd get to skype so much and it really seemed like she loved doing it and spending time with me. But now, it feels like its not a priority for her anymore. I know she's supposed to have her own life and have freedom. I guess in a way i'm being immature...but I feel so terrible- I really miss talking to her. Any thoughts, ideas or suggestions?
TheWhitestRice Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Are you keeping yourself busy also? (Hobbies, work, other friends, etc.) It's healthy to have some time apart, but it seems in this case that you two are separated for longer than you would like. I was in the same situation as you not too long ago, it's actually kind of weird how many similarities there are. Anyway, long story short, it didn't work out. I feel like at this point, you two are beginning to weigh certain things differently (she might not care so much for Skype anymore, you might not care so much for this or that). It happens. You won't always be able to receive all of the things that you want from someone; whether it be a certain reaction to a joke or some sort of personality trait. You should find someone who wants what you do, JUST as much as you do. Personally, if you feel that the relationship has come to a standstill and is no longer progressing, then it might be better for you two to part ways. 1
Recommended Posts