annabelle26 Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 I have been with my boyfriend about 3 months now. the last few weeks, he has been acting weird. at first he wanted to see me all the time, and the time we spent together was amazing. but gradually, and the last few weeks in particular, he seems less and less interested. he doesn't want to see me half as much, he makes excuses about work and he doesn't seem particularly interested in me when I am with him. He has no interest in doing anything nice together anymore. for instance, this weekend he invited me round but then slept the entire time I was there. I have completely fallen in love with him and I just feel so sad. I am unsure what I can do because I have asked him if everything is ok and he has assured me that he wants to be with me. when we first started dating, he told me that before we were together, he pursued a girl that wasn't interested in him for 9 months . He decided to tell me who she was/ show me a picture of her even though I didn't ask but I brushed it off as just a conversation topic. Because of this, though, I recognised her face earlier. he was scrolling through facebook and a picture of her came up kissing a guy. he didn't know i was in the room (I had just come back from the bathroom) and he paused on it for a long time. she also wrote to him on one of my photos of us together a few weeks ago with an uncomfortably overfamiliar message despite ignoring him last time he got in touch with her, I think she was looking for his attention because it would appear he has moved on. I might be reading too much into this whole thing, but I don't know. something has definitely changed and I don't know what I should be trying to fix with him if he wont tell me. I don't know what to do. I do have my own life and ambitions, I have a good network of friends that I see regularly. this relationship is not the only focus in my life but I am becoming scared that I risk losing it. please help me?!!
SoulSoldier Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 Going through a similar thing with my BF (no other woman involved, but less interested in seeing me as often) and I can honestly say it's best to just talk to him. Don't do it over text, do it when you see him in person next. Ask him how he's feeling. If he doesn't open up, don't prod him but rather tell him how you're feeling. Have an open discussion with him. If he's not willing to discuss things, then he's probably not interested in continuing the relationship. If he is willing to discuss things, then you at least know he's willing to make an effort. What happens from there will be dictated by how he follows through on his promises.
Author annabelle26 Posted June 23, 2013 Author Posted June 23, 2013 Going through a similar thing with my BF (no other woman involved, but less interested in seeing me as often) and I can honestly say it's best to just talk to him. Don't do it over text, do it when you see him in person next. Ask him how he's feeling. If he doesn't open up, don't prod him but rather tell him how you're feeling. Have an open discussion with him. If he's not willing to discuss things, then he's probably not interested in continuing the relationship. If he is willing to discuss things, then you at least know he's willing to make an effort. What happens from there will be dictated by how he follows through on his promises. this is the thing though - ive tried talking to him in person. and he brushes it off, says im being silly, and that he sees a future with me. but then he is acting in this distant, weird way with me which kind of negates what he is saying. I am so confused and down about this.
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