C.Bradley Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 I got dumped. Everything was going great and my boyfriend just dumped me . Why are guys like that ?
todreaminblue Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 who truly knows the answer to this, i agree with woggle it isnt a gender specific trait... i think it is better to be "dumped" though than to live in a perpetual state of "everything is going well, all is cool"....when it really isnt... its more honest in my opinion,you can heal from being dumped....if someone stays in a relationship where the unhappiness is hidden, there is no healing that can be done for either partners....sometimes being dumped is the kindest most honest thing that can happen.........you are then free to heal, then, also free to find soemone who truly loves you and is happy with you and the relationship.................deb 1
Sneaky Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 I have learned that the dumper usually thinks about this for a while. You mentioned him going distant in a different thread, my ex did as well. I'm guessing this is when they started considering it. So while it's sudden for us, it isn't for them. Also, as said before it's not just guys that do this. 3
aloneinaz Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 I have learned that the dumper usually thinks about this for a while. . Bingo! OP, you need to replay the last couple of weeks before you got dumped. Did he- *Spend less time with you? Was suddenly busy with other things? *Texting started to fall off, not as many. *Less calls or he took longer to return them. *Sex or affection, did it start getting less and less. *Picking stupid fights or arguments? *Canceling plans and they were suddenly too tired or stressed to want to hang out? Dumpers just don't dump. They've been thinking about it for a while before they pull the trigger. They usually emotionally start to detach before they drop the bomb on you. I replayed the last two months with my TOXIC ex. She did this as well. I was noticing it and talked to her about not getting much attention. She dismissed my feelings as her just being stressed and overwhelmed, that's all. We'll, after telling her I was not liking how she was continuing to talk to me a few days later in a poor manner, she ended the relationship... 4
groupergirl Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 You are so right. My ex was thinking about it and manipulated the entire break up scene. He started a lot of fights. Told everyone we fight too much, yet he started them. Sat me down and said, I added up the figures in my head and you are not worth what you have been paying to live here. With that I said, well I cannot give anymore, I will need to move to my moms. As I left, he said, now you tell your mom this was all your doing, all, your idea. Two weeks later - he didn't want any contact with me and had a girlfriend. Had the girlfriend while he was with me, he didn't want to look like the bad guy. Basically he was a coward. Does anyone think this new relationship will work? I feel sorry for her, yet she did see him while he was with me. So for that she may just get very hurt.
StrongLass Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Does anyone think this new relationship will work? Odds are SLIM at best. I feel sorry for her, yet she did see him while he was with me. So for that she may just get very hurt. EXACTLY. So let them seal their own fate Also: don't take the cad back. It sounds like they BOTH don't deserve anyone really.
SweetiePie12 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I got dumped. Everything was going great and my boyfriend just dumped me . Why are guys like that ? Maybe his ex came back...?
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