Kun90 Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 Hello everyone, I've got a little, big problem I suppose. I'm a long distance relationship with my girlfriend for around 2 years now. We get to meet every other month and basically chat, skype and phone each other every day non stop. I suppose people would regard this as one of the few ldr that seem to work just fine. We are both happily in love, if there wasn't the issue of intimacy... The first year everything was going fine, we did the cyber nasty quite often and she was really open and anticipating it, be it on the phone or with visual help. Since around 7 months though there has been pretty much nothing. At that time I was asking if everything was okay and she responded that she would miss me more when doing stuff like that. I tried to accept it and understand her point but lately I have come to the point where I can hardly stand it anymore. She completely blocks off any kind of attempt regarding it. I brought the topic up again a week ago and she said she understands me but just doesn't want to do it and that she feels fine. I'm not sure what to do. I don't believe this is healthy for a ldr. I don't feel satisfied. Has anyone been in this kind of situation before? I would appreciate any help in this matter. Thanks a lot.
justwhoiam Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 What happens when you're together in person? Is everything fine? How old are you both? When will the LD be over? If the LD is going to be over pretty soon, she might have decided to give up that cybersex habit and just make love with you and switch to a more normal relationship. Also, other things you might consider are: 1) Do you run away soon after? 2) How frequently would you like to have cybersex? 3) Do you ask her to do it with the cam on? 4) Did you adopt a fixed pattern? (Whatever that might be?) I would say that if you are flexible, she will be flexible. If you are not, then she will want it her way. Pretty much like this. This is how it goes. Not always, but quite often.
Foxinthesnow Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 I totally get your issue. I understand where she is coming from and honestly it would be unfair to push her into doing something that makes her feel bad and/or uncomfortable. But it is also unfair of her to not understand that she is making you feel bad. I would think the best thing to do would be talk to her about it, but you seemed to imply that she wasn't interested in talking because she feels fine now. Did i get that right? I don't think that is a very good sign honestly.
Recommended Posts