Well. Saw this coming. Ex has a new boyfriend.

[fiftyofsomethin]

The title says it all.

 

I discovered this by browsing twitter and found a tweet by this guy she apparently has been spending a lot of time with. "#itsofficial"

 

I mean, I don't really know what to do here. I've been preparing and preparing for this day, but I don't really know how to handle it.

 

I could tell you how my heart feels through some dumbass analogy but you guys have heard them all and you know exactly how it feels.

 

 

I was doing okay, and still CAN do okay when I just let it go and stop thinking about her or him or them together, but dammit, my mind doesn't stop wandering.

 

I just don't know. I'm sure this topic has been beaten so much on this forum that it's pointless to make a new one, but I just don't honestly care. As blunt as that is, I just don't think there is any other way to put it.

 

I need someone to lean on.

[ImperfectCircle]

My friend, you are not alone. Exactly one month ago, my ex told me face to face (we decided to meet up because she said she had something to tell me) that she has found someone new.

 

We were together for five years and been broken up for a month.

 

We did break up about three times during the relationship, but never for a long time, and we never dated others during the breakup.

 

The fact she found someone so quickly left me in complete shock.

 

I know you've heard this a million times, and I know it's hard, but the best thing you can do is to just let her go.

 

I did the same thing as you. I imagined them sleeping together, dating, everything we used to do. But eventually, it fades whether you want to believe it will or not.

 

I had to let her go as it was the only thing I could do.

 

I dated other girls a week ago and had a blast. I'm sure you will too after you have healed.

 

Guess who called me just a few days ago on my 27th day of no contact? That's right. The ex. Did I answer her call? No. Nor did I call her back. Of course, she called the moment I let go.

 

I do wonder why she called, but I know that I'll never find out. I don't want her back after she's been with someone else. That's just me. But I do miss her immensely and think about her every day.

 

So honestly buddy, try your best to move on, and for some reason, the universe will let her know you don't care anymore and that will trigger her to contact you.

[groupergirl]

I never thought I would be on a public forum spilling my heart out (what is left of my heart). As I read post, I realize I am not Alone or I am not going through something unique.

 

I can't stop thinking how my ex did me. I cannot for the life of me understand why he did what he did.

 

For the last 8 weeks I thought I was going crazy, we were fighting all the time and of a sudden he tells me that he added up the figures in his head and I was not worth what I was paying him to live with him, so I left. I told him I would move home to moms.

 

I did not know it at the time, but he has a girlfriend. He basically made me so miserable I left and now he is telling everyone that he met this girl after we broke up. He hates me, he refuses to talk with me, he will not allow me to see his daughter (my stepdaughter) which adores me and I adore her.

 

He has made me feel like I am a piece of dirt. He acts as though I never existed. I am so hurt, I cannot think straight. I love this man and did everything for him.

 

I just got all my things yesterday, of course he was not there, he was at his girlfriends house.

 

What bothers me the most is he really does not care one ounce for me. It is like I never meant anything to him.

 

I wanted to destroy half the stuff in his house but I didn't, I wanted to yank all the gladiolus that he gave me out of the ground but I didn't my brother told me to leave them there so every time he looks at them they will remind him of me. I know in my heart, he will not think of me.

 

I have never had anyone leave me for another girl and treat me this way. I am beyond hurt...

[iouaname]

I'm sorry I can't imagine how tough that must be. I have recently forced myself to stop having any contact with my ex and any ability to check up on him - so I'm hoping to never know when he meets someone new (or, be completely over him by the time I do). I can't imagine how painful it must be.

 

The only thing you can do, though, is continue on the way you have been.

[groupergirl]

I am at a loss, I am shocked, hurt and in disbelief. I actually thought we would marry one day.

[Gingerlee]

If it makes you feel any better, I have just found out the same thing. We were together 3 years, went through extreme highs and lows but we loved eachother and I believed I would be his wife one day. Today, via facebook, he told me was happy, not going to ruin what he had and was oficially with this new girl now.

 

I promise you, you're not alone.

 

I can't offer much advice, as I feel like my whole body is on fire. What I intend to do is write one last letter, and then NOT send it. Take it somewhere I feel peaceful at and then rip it to shreds. I also intend to go visit my grandparents for a couple days sometime soon, take some me time away from where I live. Thankfully I only work three days a week at the moment and I'm off from college, so if you're in a similar position i'd reccomend trying to get away somewhere.

 

If you want my contact details, just ask x