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Well it's been about 7 months since my ex broke up with me telling me that she wasn't happy with me anymore and she wanted to focus on her life. I respected her decision and we parted ways. I went into NC right after the breakup.

 

Well...turns out that didn't go smooth. Apparently through a mutual friend, she told all her friends that I mistreated her, she wasn't happy with me, that I would ignore her and to top that off she jumped into a new relationship a few days after the break-up...and her new flame wanted to fight me supposedly because I was wrecking their new relationship!?!:eek:

None of it was true! And that same mutual friend told me later on that they were engaged just one month after dating. I didn't wanna hear it anymore.

 

Devastated? A train wreck comes nothing compared to it :(

 

Well months pass; I worked on myself and recently I got back into the dating game. But one day, I received a friend request on Facebook from my ex's cousin. I messaged her asking if there was something I could help her with. She replied asking if I was seeing someone specifically. :eek: Of course me being the nice guy I told her yes...and almost instantly I get F-Bombed about the girl I'm seeing plus some rude comments about my appearance.:mad: She seemed really angry... but I didn't fire back but I just blocked her. I don't think that was really my ex's cousin but rather her (my ex).

 

Did it stop there? Nope. Well the girl I'm seeing is now my girlfriend, and a few days later she gets a friend request from my ex's cousin as well! I told her who it was and she blocked her immediately. Why on Earth would she want to my girlfriend now?

 

Did it stop there? Nope. Again! Well I hope for good this time. Both me and my girlfriend got friend requests from another person (who we both don't even know at all...but the writing seemed so familiar to my ex's writing). Of course we both blocked that person.

 

Now you're wondering why I wrote "Karma" as part of the title. Well after blocking her, the cousin and the fake accounts, a good mutual friend of mine told me out of the blue that my ex was pregnant with joy! :eek: I was shocked at first but for some reason it just didn't seem right. When I dated her, she told me she couldn't get pregnant because she had cysts and she was okay not having kids. To top that off I found it strange when we had our "love sessions" she would actually cry because I would use a condom and she preferred me to not use it. :confused:

 

Well it's been about a good month now since the accounts/pregnancy stuff happened. I haven't had any odd friend requests on Facebook so I'm guessing the pregnancy is keeping her occupied.

 

Do you think she lied about the cyst thing and it came back to her? (Karma)

Plus why would she specifically want to know who I'm seeing? And why was she angry about that? I don't have any of her close friends on my Facebook profile nor do I even go through her profile. Been NC since the breakup.

 

Any thoughts or opinions about this is appreciated!

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iouaname Established Member

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I don't believe in karma, but I think that it sounds like you did all the right things to make yourself happy and to take care of yourself. My only advice would be not to even worry about her or what she's up to and just continue on the path you've been on. Kudos to you for having been so strong!

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TaraMaiden Established Member

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OP, don't waste the valuable and wonderful time you could be having with your GF, on thoughts about how your ex has messed herself up big time.

It's time ill-spent.

 

to be honest with you - it truly doesn't matter, is irrelevant, and has no bearing on you, any longer. You've split, you've blocked her out of your life and now she's obviously got something else to think about.

 

What she said/did while with you, is history and matters not a jot.

 

Don't spend time asking questions which in all sincerity, nobody can answer for sure - and which she would never answer truthfully anyway, if asked them.

 

See?

Pointless.

 

And BtW... read my signature (3) link.... ;)

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marqueemoon4 Established Member

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Nobody likes the definition of karma.. even if it is accurate. People want to believe unconscionable people who wrong you get what they deserve. Much like people believing that "everything happens for a reason".. which is clearly nonsensical.

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Why do dumpers contact and act like psychos? Cheaters will lie until they're blue in the face, to get everyone to believe their lies. Been on the receiving end myself. I don't know why they don't regret it. Your ex sounds like a drama queen and nutjob. You dodged a bullet!

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I don't believe in karma, but I think that it sounds like you did all the right things to make yourself happy and to take care of yourself. My only advice would be not to even worry about her or what she's up to and just continue on the path you've been on. Kudos to you for having been so strong!

 

Thanks Iouaname! It was not easy at first but as time went by it has been much better! Thanks for your advice! :)

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OP, don't waste the valuable and wonderful time you could be having with your GF, on thoughts about how your ex has messed herself up big time.

It's time ill-spent.

 

to be honest with you - it truly doesn't matter, is irrelevant, and has no bearing on you, any longer. You've split, you've blocked her out of your life and now she's obviously got something else to think about.

 

What she said/did while with you, is history and matters not a jot.

 

Don't spend time asking questions which in all sincerity, nobody can answer for sure - and which she would never answer truthfully anyway, if asked them.

 

See?

Pointless.

 

And BtW... read my signature (3) link.... ;)

 

Thanks TaraMaiden! I had to re-read your post to understand what you meant (slightly threw me off), but she hasn't bothered me since then.

 

You're right though - if she lied to me about the cysts and the break-up, she could pretty much lie about anything else.

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Nobody likes the definition of karma.. even if it is accurate. People want to believe unconscionable people who wrong you get what they deserve. Much like people believing that "everything happens for a reason".. which is clearly nonsensical.

 

The definition I got used to growing up about Karma was more of "what goes around, comes around" kind of thing.

 

 

So, if everything happens for a reason...was there a reason why I ate Frosted Flakes for breakfast instead of granola bars? :p

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Why do dumpers contact and act like psychos? Cheaters will lie until they're blue in the face, to get everyone to believe their lies. Been on the receiving end myself. I don't know why they don't regret it. Your ex sounds like a drama queen and nutjob. You dodged a bullet!

 

 

Hmm well Sugarkane, I do have to agree with you here. She told all of our mutual friends about the break-up shortly after and made it seem like I was the culprit of it all. TaraMaiden is right though - it really has nothing to do with me (or even my gf).

 

Nutjob? Come to think of it...she complained about everyone (her own friends & family!) and made it seem like she got the receiving end of everything. I guess she'll never be happy with what she has.

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Nobody likes the definition of karma.. even if it is accurate. People want to believe unconscionable people who wrong you get what they deserve. Much like people believing that "everything happens for a reason".. which is clearly nonsensical.

 

The definition I got used to growing up about Karma was more of "what goes around, comes around" kind of thing.

It's a lot more complicated than that....

 

So, if everything happens for a reason...was there a reason why I ate Frosted Flakes for breakfast instead of granola bars?

No, as marqueemoon4 pointed out, that's clearly nonsensical - things only happen because they happen.

NOT for a reason.....

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It's a lot more complicated than that....

 

 

No, as marqueemoon4 pointed out, that's clearly nonsensical - things only happen because they happen.

NOT for a reason.....

 

 

Ah I see, I'm such a rookie to this then :o

 

Oh the cereal part was a joke :p

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.....Oh the cereal part was a joke :p

 

See...that was as type of Karma right there.....;)

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It's a lot more complicated than that....

 

 

No, as marqueemoon4 pointed out, that's clearly nonsensical - things only happen because they happen.

NOT for a reason.....

 

See...that was as type of Karma right there.....;)

 

 

I did not see that coming :o

TaraMaiden Established Member

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I know - karma's a Bitch..... It essentially means you don't get away with anything - and it ALL counts.

 

Volitional, deliberate, pre-meditated, intentional action.

 

That's yer Karma - right there. ;)

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