jujubes Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 (edited) I sat next to someone on a two-hour train ride earlier this year -- we clicked immediately and spent the whole time talking. No mention of anything romantic or if we were both single, but we both touched each other a lot while talking, and as the trip went on, I noticed we were sitting with our shoulders and arms pressed together even though there was plenty of extra space on both our sides. I never let someone into my personal space like that unless I'm attracted to them or very comfortable with them, so I took that as a good sign from his end (I was TOTALLY smitten with him very quickly). It turned out we both like Thai food a lot, so at the end of the train ride, I gave him my business card and told him we should grab a bite to eat sometime. He called me a couple weeks later and left a message asking if I wanted to get some Thai food with him. I was out of town though. Then when I was finally back in town, he had left for vacation. Then when he was back, I was gone again. Long story short, it's now been five months of us trying to get together and we *finally* have a day next week that is open for both of us, so we made plans. I'm stoked...but I have no idea if he sees this as a date or just a "meal with a friend I made on the train"! We've only sparsely been in touch since meeting, just a few text convos here and there, and I get the impression he's trying to play it cool and restrained. I'm almost positive he's single as well. Things that make me think/hope he sees this as a date: -He suggested we get together for dinner, even though he has the whole day free and we could have done lunch instead (which seems a bit more friendshippy/casual) -It's been five months since our one-time meeting, and he's still interested in meeting up with me... in other words he hasn't forgotten I exist -There was a lot of physical contact on the train, more than would be necessary -He sounded nervous when he called the first time asking me to get food with him (that was the only time we used the phone with each other) I guess I'm just wondering how much I should get my hopes up about next week and whether I should avoid ordering anything that gives bad breath. Hahaha. Also, I am 26 and he is 24, if that matters. I know I'm probably overthinking all of this, but he's just REALLY hard to read. Does it sound like this is a "date" or just two friends meeting up? Would a guy hang onto food plans with a girl for five months if there wasn't any romantic interest? Edited June 23, 2013 by jujubes
Tinie Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 It sounds like a date to me. Especially since he cared enough to meet up after not seeing you for 5 months. Just go for it. You have nothing to lose. See where it goes, and if it goes in that direction, good!
Country_Girl Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 Sounds like a date to me.... But, because I know sometimes guys are friendly, your best guage will be on "the date" itself. If it involves physical touch like it did on the train, I'd say the person is showing interest and flirting. Listen for compliments, guys that are just casual friends with me rarely compliment, except for maybe the guys I have known for 10 years...so any reference like "you have a nice smile, oh you're prettier than I remembered, oh that's so cute, you look beautiful, nice dress" will be the indicator that YES it is a date. Hope that helps.
Author jujubes Posted June 23, 2013 Author Posted June 23, 2013 Thank you both for the input! Country Girl, great suggestions on what to look out for... I'll keep those in mind.
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