sg Posted October 14, 2004 Posted October 14, 2004 I uprooted my life for this guy. left a marriage, and lived together for 3 years. recently moved into his old neighborhood with my 3 children. it is a cultural difference in the community, a much longer drive to work- and new schools for 3 kids. Well since the move 8 months ago. Things should have improved- NOT sure the kids are angry sometimes, but thats normal, and I have a non supportive ex-spouse.- whom he knows, which just pisses him off. well he has anger control issues and will not admit it. he started a fight, and it escalated until i called him stupid. He threatend me that if I called him stupid one more time he would hit me in the face. we did not speak for 3 days until this morning. After discussing what happened- he asked , what now? why does there have to be an ultimatum? we are discussing this. he got angry and yelled at me to get out of his life. I hung up. He has done this before, where he threatens to leave, or tells me to get out. then later on, asks what's wrong? I want to leave but im scared. his family helps me with my children when I travel. i would stay in the house and ask him to move but i dont have the nerve. i feel sick, scared, nauceous, i know he is not sorry, i know he is immature, and i fear his lack of impulse control may result in him hitting me one day. but i cannot seem to let go. help
Just Visiting Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 You handed him the reins to your life. Now it is time to reclaim them. You know that there is a problem with possible hurtful consequences. Do whatever you can to leave this situation. Someone who has anger issues and threatens is someone you have to get away from. Take care of yourself and your children before anything serious happens.
gwennebe Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 Do you have any family or friends that can offer you support or help you get out of the situation. You do need to concentrate on what is best for your children. He I'm going to say does not seem best for them. You need to leave ASAP don't ever be with someone that could possibly threaten you with violence. That is not love, someone like him doesn't know how to love a woman. You don't want your children being brought up thinking that violence is the answer do you? I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the best of hope and luck in the world to get out of this situation. Don't be afraid to ask for help. If you were my friend or family member I would do everything I could to help you.
Weird Posted October 15, 2004 Posted October 15, 2004 dysfunctional relationhsip to the max. Wow. Leave the guy because you are letting yourself get abused (verbally & emotionally now and as you worry maybe physical) by this dude...and don't stay in a relationship because a person's family helps out wiht your children. That's not cool or right. It isn't his family's fault or responsibility you decided to have 3 kids with a guy you shouldn't have had children with. I hope you can leave this guy and can get better control of your lfie and not get invovled with such deadbeats as it sounds like your ex husband is an azzhole as well. Nobody deserves or should settle to only be with people that treat them like crap. Remember that.
grojas1986 Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 Just leave him. I mean the a**h*** has a nice woman(you) to go home to and he treats you like ****. a violent man is not bf or marriage material. so just leave, and don't be scared about it because chances are he won't do anything, because it is only going to get worse from here if you stay with him. after he starts beating you will accept it and will never be able to get out of the relationship because of the fear of what he will do.
Weird Posted October 18, 2004 Posted October 18, 2004 agreed. He isn't worth an ounce of your care. I friggin can't stand guys who abuse their women either verbally, emotionally or physically. Pisses me off so much.
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