mixedemoticon Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 Hi all I suspect my BF is cheating on me. He will deny everything. How can I get the truth out of the OTHER WOMAN, without him finding out or me implicating myself?
Author mixedemoticon Posted June 23, 2013 Author Posted June 23, 2013 No...I know OF her, but not personally. my BF refers to her as "my friend" and he does call her sometimes, and occasionally takes her calls in front of me. But not the late night calls like at 1 am etc. I know where she lives but have never met her
Sazerac Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 Most likely, you can't. If your relationship is to the point that trust has been destroyed enough that you'd have to go to the other alleged affair partner to find out what happened - there is no relationship. 1
carhill Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 IMO, if evidence is what you need/desire, focus on the evidence itself and not persons. Technology is a great assist. We've been reading of late how the NSA/CIA, etc spy on citizens; the good news is that citizens have access to a lot of the same technology. What level of certainty regarding any inappropriate behavior do you require to satisfy your interest in this? In general, your gut feeling is a canary choking worth paying attention to irrespective of evidence gathering. It's a sign of unhealthiness in the relationship and/or yourself. What level of confidence would assuage your suspicions? 1
Author mixedemoticon Posted June 24, 2013 Author Posted June 24, 2013 The bottom line is I feel the OW needs to know about me. Im sure she is being lied to as well, but mainly, I have to find out if he has been unfaithful so I can either confirm that my gut was correct or that I am hyperparanoid. Hence my question on my OP
Keke1 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Why didn't you just bump your other thread? It's essentially the same thing. He isn't acting like your boyfriend, blocked you from his FB and chose to believe her over you. You've been ex'd it seems. How old are you? 2
Keke1 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 No...I know OF her, but not personally. my BF refers to her as "my friend" and he does call her sometimes, and occasionally takes her calls in front of me. But not the late night calls like at 1 am etc. I know where she lives but have never met her & you got her phone number from his phone
SweetiePie12 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 No...I know OF her, but not personally. How? my BF refers to her as "my friend" and he does call her sometimes, and occasionally takes her calls in front of me. But not the late night calls like at 1 am etc. I know where she lives but have never met her How did you find out where she lives? I used to have a "friend", too, so I urge you to fix your relationship if you can, because there might be a problem.
SweetiePie12 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 The bottom line is I feel the OW needs to know about me. Why? Are you trying to have an open relationship? Why is your focus not on the person you're supposedly in a relationship with?
reardear Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 Do this if you don't care about how you'll be seen if you turn out to be wrong. Talk to her as if you already know he's been cheating. You can say stuff like, "Hey, we need to talk. Blah blah... I already know about what's been going on between you and ____ - he's been cheating on me, and I want to know why. I want to know what's going on and why you guys are doing it."
Betterthanthis13 Posted June 26, 2013 Posted June 26, 2013 If you feel like your boyfriend is dating a girl and telling her he is single when he isn't the just call her and tell her. She hasn't done anything wrong.
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