slimcharlie23 Posted October 14, 2004 Posted October 14, 2004 I have been dating this girl (Melanie) for 19months today. I am 18 and she is 17 years old. I am in college and she is in high school. We have had anything but a smooth relationship. She has cheated on me several times and I cheated on her once with her twin sister. Last night we got in a big fight because I am always concerned that when i go out of town for an extended period of time (3 days or more) then i am worried about her cheating on me. I know most people would tell me to stay away from this girl because she and I both cheated on each other...I am just going to tell you right now that its not possible for her and I to be apart. I love her dearly and never will let go. I am wondering if there is someone else out there that might be going through the same thing as I am and if they could spare some advice for me. Such as how to cope with being gone from a loved one. Anything would help. I have class...I will be back later though. thanks for at least reading this.
Barby Posted October 14, 2004 Posted October 14, 2004 ...I am just going to tell you right now that its not possible for her and I to be apart. I love her dearly and never will let go. Clearly you don't have to take my advice and I know you won't but what you stated above sounds like obsession, (borderline stalkerish) do you really think once she goes to college and meets so many new people and you're far away that's she's going to remain faithful??!! She's a very pretty girl and I'm sure she'll be hit on by plenty of guys...now if she's 100% commited to your relationship then you have nothing to worry about...but the problem is you can never be 100% sure if she's commited.... Also you're both young and though it may feel like she's the "only one" for you, if it ends up happening that you two break up...I'm sure you'll have lots of other women that will make you realize that this relationship wasn't as "life depending" as you may feel right now. Anyway good luck!
surfergirl Posted October 14, 2004 Posted October 14, 2004 So far the sun has come up and it goes back down everyday and has for million of years. Never say never and tomorrow is always a NEW day with new possibilities for the BOTH of you. For example, I married my high school sweetheart and everyone thought we were the "All American Cute Couple"..... fast forward years later we are now divorced. I know now that I really didn't know what love was back then and I'm still working on that. If she truly loves you then why does she feel she needs to have "other relationships" are you not enough for her? Same goes for you. You are very young and have a lot of life before you.....be very careful when it comes to picking a soul mate to spend forever with. You also need to face the fact that you both cheated and you will have to bury those memories or they will "haunt". Can you do that? Just some things to think about - good luck.
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