Archanaart Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 Hi everyone, I was texting with my boyfriend today and I ended the conversation to get some errands done. He responded with "okay baby! Love you" I began to wonder if it is possible to say "I love you" too much in a relationship. Like if a person said it a few times a day, would you feel as if the meaning was lost and it was said out of habit or would you not mind at all. Thoughts?
Eggplant Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 If the relationship is mature, and you both really do love each other, then say it all the time!
Ripnet Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 A lot of people say I love without really meaning. Their actions many times doesn't show it. Words don't mean much unless it's back up with action. 1
KungFuJoe Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 My limit is 5 times a week...unless it's a holiday weekend or something, then I'll let up to 7 slide. But no more! I made that mistake before...never again! 1
soccerrprp Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 If the love is genuine then there's no such thing as TOO much. But again, if it is true love, then there wouldn't be the need nor desire to say it TOO often. One's own confidence and security in the relationship will naturally compel that person to ACT on the love as a meaningful expression of it and the words take a backseat to those actions.
HokeyReligions Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 Many years ago I had a similar talk with my bf. Not a serrious talk but we kind of asked each other during a conversation. We didn't say it as much after because we both agreed it could become a habit and lose some of its meaning so we slowed it and were aware after that when we said it it meant more. Fast forward 25plus years and we say it to each other many times a day and it always has meaning. It depends on the couple and the context. Funny this comes up now. I got a voice mail from a coworker - and there is nothing going on - but he forgot who he was leaving the message for and I could hear him being interrupted so he cut the message short and ended with 'love ya" LOL!
miss_jaclynrae Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 From personal experience, with my now boyfriend, we don't say it nearly as much as my ex and I did. We don't really need to. We know how the other feels, and when I want to say it I do. It's cute actually, because you never know when one of us will say "I love you." Whether it is while doing the dishes or while making each other laugh... It isn't something we feel we HAVE to say. Not to mention the fact that I hate "love you!" I find it to be a little half assed and would rather hear "I love you" every once in a while than "love you" all the time.
LilGirlandOW Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 Not to mention the fact that I hate "love you!" I find it to be a little half assed and would rather hear "I love you" every once in a while than "love you" all the time. I feel the exact same way!
rocketman122 Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 saying it and showing it. the 2 go together. and being sincere when saying it.
MidwestUSA Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 I've really come to appreciate those three little words, "You were right". Oh, sorry, wrong thread. . (But I do so love it!)
KatZee Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 I think you can yes. It also depends on the context of it being said. One of my past boyfriends was extremely clingy/needy. He dropped the "I love you" bomb on me and I wasn't ready to say it back/I wasn't sure I was even moving towards the "I love you too" either. I didn't respond and I said I wasn't ready to say it, and instead of just kind of backing off with it, he continued saying it all the time. He told me he loved me probably 10-20 times a day. It became extremely excessive and he actually told me he kept saying it to me so he could invoke the response from me back. Instead of me wanting to tell him I loved him back, he smothered me. Every time he said it, it made me sick, I had no room to breathe. He was so insecure in the relationship that he said it way too much and eventually I became so desensitized by it and it meant nothing to me.
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