She's interested, I'm not

[mfleck91]

I went out on a first date and everything went well, it was a decent time. But I didn't really feel any connection with her, there was no chemistry at least from my point of view.

 

The problem is I can tell she was really into it and wana to go out again. She keeps texting me throughout the day making small talk. I don't want to hurt her feelings and don't know how to tell her I'm not interested. If be happy to hang out as friends, but I'm not attracted to her in any other way.

 

Any tips on how I should go about letting her know how I feel?

[bananamilkshake453]

do what i do pretend your moving or going on holiday...tell her you're busy in a nice way of course.you could leave her hangin' and if she still keeps messaging you and hasnt got the hint ,shes got a screw loose.

[Eggplant]

This position is no fun. Be busy when she invites you out. If she still doesn't get the message, simply tell her it's not a match.

[brittneyfoster]

What is so bad about saying "I think you are really cool, and I enjoyed our hang out but I just don't know that we are a match together"

[Ami1uwant]

How are you measuring chemistry---plain attraction? what did you do on a first date?

 

What I will always suggest if you seems to enjoy talking to them on your date and no red flags were raised on their personality or they brought up stuff they wanted that you obviously know you arent that person (non negotiable things such as religion, wanting kids, etc) then you should have a 2nd date and see what happens.

 

there are numerous examples of people who dont feel anything on date 1 but do on later dates in part because they are more relaxed.

[KatZee]

Just be straight up.

 

"I had a nice time when we met, but I don't see a connection happening between us. I hope you find what you're looking for."

 

Don't say anything like, "You're a great woman" or "Someone's really going to love you" or anything stupid like that.