Some questions to those who have been cheated on by their LTR partners :

[Roadkill007]

Does the anger towards your SO help keep the pain and fear away? Is blaming the other woman a stage? What if the other woman is unremorseful? Does it help or hurt your emotional recovery? Besides exercise, what other ways did you keep yourself busy to keep your mind off the loss, the fear, the pain? How did you deal with all your old comfort environments (like home, neighborhood, etc) suddenly being reminders of your loss?

 

I'm not the one having these problems, but as I'm the primary source of emotional support, I'd like some advice on how else to help this person move on from being stuck in the circle of self-hatred and despair.

Edited June 22, 2013 by Roadkill007

[Leegh]

Unfortunately, there are no easy answers. I think it just takes time. It has taken me three years to get over break-ups, even when there was no cheating involved, and these were not even marriages. It's amazing that people (including myself) can fall in love almost instantly, yet it can take such a long time to get over someone. I guess it just has to do with the chemicals in the brain. I think if your friend could move to an area that did not remind her of her ex that could help a lot, as it can help the brain form new neurons. The good news is that most of us eventually get over a break-up and have a full recovery.

[todreaminblue]

yes it is a stage blaming th eother woman....was for me...then i had an epiphany........it wasnt her fault........and acceptance set in and forgiveness followed......wasnt my fault either....but just a chain of events that was unavoidably going to happen...he was not faithful or loyal to me...i coudl nto change him to be faithful or loyal..no amount of my love even given unconditionally, could save our relationship..he waqsnt in it.....it was just me....it was a matter of time before it happened...and it did...........deb

[hayewils]

It's amazing that people (including myself) can fall in love almost instantly, yet it can take such a long time to get over someone.

 

I like this.. its so true. When I first saw my wife, the very first day, I was at work and she came for an interview. The person walking her around took her to the area I was in, I was doing some paperwork, they stuck there heads through the door and there she was.

I fell in love instantly, I was taken away, my heart just melted.

Love at first sight? I believe it.

When she started, her office was down a hallway I never walked much, but I walked it all the time to see and talk to her.

Now its horrible to lose your best friend.

We had a wonderful time but unfortunately the evils and lifes hardships come into play. She chose to jump ship than to make things work.

Has nothing to do with the question at hand I know but,had to comment on that.