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Fiance wants me to stop using marijuana or its over?

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TaraMaiden Established Member

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Not grasping at straws at all. I gave you an example of a very successful person who has a family and smokes weed legally.

As for my usage? lol you gonna arrest me Tara?

Besides I don't buy enough at any particular time to incur the wrath of the law. I smoke responsibly and know my limits.

 

as I stated, I doubt that would wash with any Police Officer.

 

I think I'm just about done discussing it with you anyway.

We're never going to agree, so....*shrug*.

L1ght Established Member

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as I stated, I doubt that would wash with any Police Officer.

 

I think I'm just about done discussing it with you anyway.

We're never going to agree, so....*shrug*.

Yeah we never will agree. I'm actually surprised that you're main issue seems to be with people taking it illegally. You really don't care about the amount of people who don't want it to be illegal and the amount of people who live functional lives while using it. Total closed mindedness from you and it baffles why you even really care that much about it if its not your cuppa tea. Maybe you should join the police force if it bothers you so much.

nana841121 Established Member

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boozing having a few laughter, doing number 16, blacked out it was until later I was washing the blood off my hands.

Simon Phoenix Established Member

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It's perfectly reasonable that a mother doesn't want the father to be blazing in front of a newborn child. I have nothing against marijuana, but being stoned while raising a young child is not smart. As the child gets older, or when you are away from it for whatever reason, then spark a joint occasionally, but the woman is completely justified in asking the OP to limit the toking.

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nessaaa Established Member

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I think that's bull****.

That's enough reason for her to end the relationship???

 

Hmm...

That is b.s

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I see a lot of people who are talking the legality of this, alcohol gambling. Legal things can be addictive and just as destructive. bring us back here OP how's the issue sitting so far?

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This thread has become unintentionally hilarious to me. Sooo many misconceptions of marijuana I don't even wanna enter the fray. It'd be fruitless. With that said, and with regards to the OP, clearly your woman has a problem with you smoking. Solution? Do it when she's not around. That's what most of the dads that I know who smoke do.

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This thread has become unintentionally hilarious to me. Sooo many misconceptions of marijuana I don't even wanna enter the fray. It'd be fruitless. With that said, and with regards to the OP, clearly your woman has a problem with you smoking. Solution? Do it when she's not around. That's what most of the dads that I know who smoke do.

 

ultimately everyone is still missing the point, it's an illegal drug. regardless of benefits or risks or someone's personal beliefs, it is illegal and that means you can get arrested for possession. do it enough and that's trouble. daddy can't raise kids from jail. this isn't an argument about legalizing pot.

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TaraMaiden Established Member

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Yeah...I got slammed by one member here for hanging on the 'illegal drug' thing.... L1ght stated it wasn't illegal everywhere in the USA but it's an illegal drug in more places than it isn't. His argument was that, it's ok even if it's illegal, he uses it responsibly. Which I'm sure would certainly stand him in good stead when confronted by a cop.

 

So thanks for pointing this out again, because hell yeah, it damn well IS a legitimate argument, people!!

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L1ght Established Member

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This thread has become unintentionally hilarious to me. Sooo many misconceptions of marijuana I don't even wanna enter the fray. It'd be fruitless. With that said, and with regards to the OP, clearly your woman has a problem with you smoking. Solution? Do it when she's not around. That's what most of the dads that I know who smoke do.

Yeah it is hilarious how many people on this forum see the world in black and white, totally fall into the category of those who have misconceptions about marijuana, are uneducated about marijuana, have no clue about the global appeal of marijuana and how many people think it should be legalized, have no perception of the fact its illegal just so that the big pharmaceutical corporations can continue to expand their empires while lining the governments pockets.....oh and not to mention that its no more dangerous than alcohol which itself has proven to be a very dangerous drug that can lead to violent behaviour or cause people to make terrible errors of judgement yet its ok to buy at your leisure.

But hey.....the people making arguments against marijuana use here are too bone headed to accept that the laws we live under when it comes to usage need to be analysed and updated especially when you make comparisons to the damage that is done by the legal drug that is alcohol. Anyway my contribution to this thread is over and I hope the OP does what's best for him.

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Yeah it is hilarious how many people on this forum see the world in black and white, totally fall into the category of those who have misconceptions about marijuana, are uneducated about marijuana, have no clue about the global appeal of marijuana and how many people think it should be legalized, have no perception of the fact its illegal just so that the big pharmaceutical corporations can continue to expand their empires while lining the governments pockets.....oh and not to mention that its no more dangerous than alcohol which itself has proven to be a very dangerous drug that can lead to violent behaviour or cause people to make terrible errors of judgement yet its ok to buy at your leisure.

But hey.....the people making arguments against marijuana use here are too bone headed to accept that the laws we live under when it comes to usage need to be analysed and updated especially when you make comparisons to the damage that is done by the legal drug that is alcohol. Anyway my contribution to this thread is over and I hope the OP does what's best for him.

 

lol, right? Not to mention, I'm not sure it was even mentioned what state this guy lives in. For all we know, he could be in Colorado where the ****'s LEGAL. And as far as the law goes, at least where I live, anything less then 20 grams is a misdemeanor...they don't send you to prison for a misdemeanor, and a misdemeanor isn't going to keep you from getting most jobs. But whatevah...haters gon' hate.

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You definitely sound like you are addicted because you are in denial about the effects of smoking weed on you and your reasons not to quit sound very childish. If you feel that you can't be happy without smoking that is a true sign of an addict.

 

As long as you are an addict she cannot respect you. Without respect it is hard to love a person. As a grown man you are at choice. You say you don't see any problem with smoking ~ wow that is denial big time because you are about to loose the person you love and I would think that is a huge problem.

 

You have the choice to go for help if you cannot quit on your own. I think trying to negotiate is wrong on your part. She feels the way she feels whether you agree or not.

 

Be a grown man and face your addiction and quit once and for all if you really love this woman as you say you do.

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Woggle Established Member

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I think weed is no worse than alcohol and should have never been illegal in the first place but you have a child on the way and that comes first.

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IT Geek Established Member

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Well aren't you a complete bore. You just reinforce my stance that I will never listen to a woman like you who cares only about herself and not about what makes her partners happy. The guys who give into your demands are obviously very weak and have no backbone whatsoever.

 

No, she's just not willing to settle. Two absolute deal breakers for me would be smoking and illicit drug use. No if, ands, maybes, or buts.

Mack05 Established Member

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I didn't read the thread replies (just the original OP post) and I have to say I fully agree with your girl. She is pregant carrying your kids. This means you treat her like a princess and do exactly what she says. You cause her no stress or anxiety during the pregancy. "Yes sir, yes sir, three bags full sir"..

 

When things settle down by all mean come back to the issue and try reach a fair compromise, but I agree with her points about weakness and using dope as an escape. You are going to be a father. Time to start acting like one.

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hotgurl Established Member

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First off.. OP if I were you I would stop. You'll be fine without it.

 

And people are condemning marijuana based on legality in the year 2013? Seriously :D

 

The legality of it does matter especially when you have kids. If you are caught you can be arrested, fines etc.. and now you are on CPS radar. they can take your kids, make you attend parenting classes etc...

 

It is something to take into consideration. Especially if she leaves his habit will effect his custody.

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I can't throw stones, because I live in a glass house... albeit, I smoke only legal substances lest I lose my job. However, if your fiance is truly adiment about you quiting, you should quit. Also, the fact that is illegal and you could end up in jail (I know, stupid... but laws are laws) and be away from her and your children and lose your job.... should be a major factor in your quiting.

 

I know people will look at me like I am retarded for suggesting this, but here it goes... for most of my life I have had the same group of friends, at least backhome, and for many years they were potheads. Because of my father being really against it and making me fear it, I never tried it... but when I would hang out with my friends while they were doing it I would some times smoke catnip. I know sounds stupid. But it actually gives you a little bit of a high... plus it is cheap and legal. Have not done it in about 5 years... but that was what I would do so that I didn't feel left out, but also so I didn't have to join in. Thankfully my friends grew up and quit.

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You are about to become a father. Time to grow up.

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