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Fiance wants me to stop using marijuana or its over?

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L1ght Established Member

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...or they value my contribution to their lives, more than a momentary hit and temporary high of a lump of weed mixed with tobacco.

 

It's not a question of 'giving into demands'. They have the choice.

They can make it.

Whatever they choose, is their choice.

But either way, they gain the thing they decide they most want.

 

And sweetheart, get to know me before you call me a complete bore.

I am capable of scintillating and educated discussion with intelligent input - without the aid of an artificially-administered stimulant to make me more vivacious.

That's the beauty of it. We both know what we like in this life and we both know how to make ourselves happy. That's the reason why a girl like you would only be a temporary thing in my life cos I ain't changing for nobody even if they do try and tempt me with the offer of experiencing the most scintillating tongue around.

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TaraMaiden Established Member

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Well good, that would be your choice, and that would be ok.

At least we'd know where we both stand.

 

But the choice is at the feet of the OP, and his basic fundamental options are these:

Stay with his lady and their forthcoming baby, or leave and keep his habit.

 

That's what it boils down to.

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So many of us are here because we crave a second chance, so take it from me change before it turns into something she might walk over.

 

If she walks wont bother me or any one else posting on here, It will be you can you handle that?

 

I haven't read all your post but what if its for the good of the life you guys are going to have together.

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TaraMaiden Established Member

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How many relationships with women have you been in?

 

Why does that matter? is it relevant?

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eleve82 Established Member

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L1ght, realise that making personal comments about someone just because you disagree with their comments only reflects badly on YOURSELF. I don't think anyone here cares to date you or anyone who believes they are so special that no compromise is worth making, so save these comments for your dating life.

L1ght Established Member

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L1ght, realise that making personal comments about someone just because you disagree with their comments only reflects badly on YOURSELF. I don't think anyone here cares to date you or anyone who believes they are so special that no compromise is worth making, so save these comments for your dating life.

Excuse me? The good thing about forums like these is that we can express our opinions in an anonymous way and unless we upload photos and proof of identity we have no idea who is attractive or who is the most desirable option for dating so actually your comment that no one wants to date me is kinda pathetic cos for the most part nobody here has any clue about who the real people behind the comments are. You are no more a viable option than me for dating in this fake online world and I'm gonna keep expressing my opinion whenever the hell I want thank you very much.

TaraMaiden Established Member

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They never mentioned appearance. They were talking about attitude.

 

And personal insults about people are not permitted, no matter how freely you believe you are to 'express opinions'.

 

I should know.

L1ght Established Member

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They never mentioned appearance. They were talking about attitude.

 

And personal insults about people are not permitted, no matter how freely you believe you are to 'express opinions'.

 

I should know.

Wasn't responding to you but thanks for the input anyway lol.

I was responding to a comment about dating and actually appearance is very important as well as knowing who the real person is. You don't know me and I don't know you or anyone else on here so a realistic comment about dating in a forum is kinda weak.

TaraMaiden Established Member

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Granted.

But opinions and personal viewpoints, policies, beliefs and principles are extremely important when dating - as this very thread has demonstrated.

 

By expressing certain views, people have made their opinions abundantly clear.

IRL, I would either have little or nothing to do with some, and i would happily co-exist with others.

 

This says nothing about their looks, but a lot about their 'type'.

I'm sure people feel the same way about me, so I'm including myself in the above comment.

 

:)

TaraMaiden Established Member

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I think a person's reference regarding the indulgence of recreational drug-taking is as important a consideration in dating as religious persuasion, cultural origins, political stances and feelings on marriage/fidelity and having children.

 

I think these are classified as 'deal-breakers' for many....

L1ght Established Member

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I agree.

 

Which is why, if I were a woman who thought regular drug use was a dealbreaker, I wouldn't let a regular drug user impregnate me.

Good point. She knew the type of guy she was with and she was actually a smoker herself in the past so its unrealistic to expect a guy to stop because she stops. Its his life and he is obviously functional enough to hold down a job while he supports her so I don't see any problem with it. The only problem I would have would be when it stops people from living a functional life.

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Reading the OP again, it seems he did stop for a while, as did she, then he began again, and convinced her to do it with him, 'just once' - but 'just once' escalated....until she stopped again, because it was making her feel bad - and then she became pregnant - but he carried on.

 

He seems to believe that when the baby is born, he will be able to 'just stop', and it seems to be his intention to do so....

 

Maybe he might compromise by reducing/not smoking at home - and then put his money where his mouth is, once the baby arrives....I agree that while she also smoked the substance, it seems somewhat hypocritical to demand he stop simply because she has - but he seems agreeable to it once they're a family.

 

Maybe she should just wait and see if he's as good as his word.....

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Not the most self-aware person are you, L1ght?

 

You are the one who in response to TaraMaiden's comments, called her a "bore" and that you wouldn't date her (as if anyone cares who you deem "worthy of dating"..?) She has the good grace to let it pass and focus on the discussion at hand and on the OP while you go on yammering about what YOU prefer.

 

Now, its rather ironic that later you should say that no one has the right to judge who is "desirable" or attractive based on the comments on the forum (oh, but YOU can!)

 

Pretty funny, actually.

L1ght Established Member

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Not the most self-aware person are you, L1ght?

 

You are the one who in response to TaraMaiden's comments, called her a "bore" and that you wouldn't date her (as if anyone cares who you deem "worthy of dating"..?) She has the good grace to let it pass and focus on the discussion at hand and on the OP while you go on yammering about what YOU prefer.

 

Now, its rather ironic that later you should say that no one has the right to judge who is "desirable" or attractive based on the comments on the forum (oh, but YOU can!)

 

Pretty funny, actually.

I actually forgot you existed lol.

Its also really odd that you felt the need to attack me when I wasn't even talking to your dumb self to begin with and actually Tara and I pretty much came to an end of our exchange with out you.

Stuff off do-gooder. I don't recall asking for your opinion about me and I sure as hell have no intention of finding out any more about your worthless existence.

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eleve82 Established Member

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Ohh and there it is, more name calling ensues. Speaks for itself. ;)

 

I certainly won't continue with you either - I respect the OP and the discussion thread much more than that.

L1ght Established Member

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Yay! thank god for that. I might actually be able to leave comments that are meant for the person I'm responding to without do-gooders butting in and trying to save the day so that they can appear to have higher morals than everybody else. :laugh:

 

Anyway. Marijuana rocks and this guy is responsible enough to support his family and live a functional life so he is responsible enough to decide if he wants to continue smoking or not regardless of other peoples opinions for or against it.

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Well...not everybody else's.... just yours.

 

marijuana most certainly does not 'rock'.

 

It may 'rock YOUR world' but for many people who have have taken it as a habit, it has seriously sunk their boat.

 

But you have a right to carry on believing what you want, if fairy-tales are your bag.

I prefer to live in the real world where evidence and testimony from first-hand former addicts tells me what it's really like.

 

I sincerely wish you well.

Whatever you do.

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L1ght Established Member

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Well...not everybody else's.... just yours.

 

marijuana most certainly does not 'rock'.

 

It may 'rock YOUR world' but for many people who have have taken it as a habit, it has seriously sunk their boat.

 

But you have a right to carry on believing what you want, if fairy-tales are your bag.

I prefer to live in the real world where evidence and testimony from first-hand former addicts tells me what it's really like.

 

I sincerely wish you well.

Whatever you do.

The real world? Take Joe Rogan as a real world example. He is a huge advocate for Marijuana use as well as the use of various psychedelics and not to mention the fact that he constantly emphasises the importance of educating yourself before usage. He is a very successful stand up comedian, has the most popular podcast on the web, is a black belt in various forms of martial arts, is the main UFC commentator and he is a father to 2 or 3 daughters while living with his wife. He does all of this while smoking on a regular basis. Many people who live in the real world smoke weed and live successful lives

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Sorry....How does that make it acceptable, or legal even?

 

 

Answer: It doesn't.

 

For every shining light of an example you could give, I can probably provide testimony of those whose lives and health it has affected adversely.

 

Adelle Davis used to say that she never saw anyone get cancer who drank a quart of milk daily, as she did. She stopped saying that when she contracted (and subsequently died of) cancer in 1974.

 

You've proven nothing.

L1ght Established Member

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Sorry....How does that make it acceptable, or legal even?

 

 

Answer: It doesn't.

 

For every shining light of an example you could give, I can probably provide testimony of those whose lives and health it has affected adversely.

 

Adelle Davis used to say that she never saw anyone get cancer who drank a quart of milk daily, as she did. She stopped saying that when she contracted (and subsequently died of) cancer in 1974.

 

You've proven nothing.

lol incorrect!

Ive proven that you don't have a clue what you are talking about because weed is legal in many places including California and various psychedelic experiences are legal and available for people to try in certain parts of the world. You are extremely close minded and you have no idea how many successful people smoke weed.

As for the people who lives have been ruined by drugs? whats that got to do with me or the OP? I don't recall him saying he was ruining his life but I guess you'll just have to ask him.

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FYI Rogan uses his medical marijuana licence and advocates the use of drugs legally too.

TaraMaiden Established Member

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It's not legal in the UK though, is it?

So speak with relevance, don't grasp at straws.

If you want to continue to use it - go where it's legal.

If not, accept the consequences.

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First off.. OP if I were you I would stop. You'll be fine without it.

 

And people are condemning marijuana based on legality in the year 2013? Seriously :D

L1ght Established Member

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It's not legal in the UK though, is it?

So speak with relevance, don't grasp at straws.

If you want to continue to use it - go where it's legal.

If not, accept the consequences.

Not grasping at straws at all. I gave you an example of a very successful person who has a family and smokes weed legally.

As for my usage? lol you gonna arrest me Tara?

Besides I don't buy enough at any particular time to incur the wrath of the law. I smoke responsibly and know my limits.

TaraMaiden Established Member

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No, not only that. But L1ght brought up the legality issue. I was merely responding.

The legality is but a consideration.

In light of the thread subject, other factors are obviously more important.

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