athousandquestions Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 Me and ex broke up 3 weeks ago, he's been frequently contacting me (every 2 days). I've been complete NC for about a 12 days (ignoring his texts). Keep in mind he broke up with me. Like most manipulative people, though he ended things (and I expressed that I did NOT want things to end) he still expects me to be his emotional crutch. I am not going to play that role. Today I received this text from him: "You have 2 pairs of my sweats, 1 black shirt, and my Vegas shirt. If there's anything else I'd like all of it back please. I can pick it up tonight before or after work. Also, if it was you who called last night I'd appreciate if you wouldn't do that. Thanks.' A few things... - I don't have 2 pairs of his sweats. I have one pair, and on another occasion I have said 'I only have one pair. I do not have the gray sweats.' - I don't want to see him and thus do not want him coming here to get his things. - I did not call him last night. I would not dream of breaking NC at this point. Should I even reply? In my eyes it seems like he's trying to get a response and rile me up a bit. Especially because I only have 1 pair of his goddamned pants. I have no access to a car and he works tonight, so I was going to ignore his message and drive his stuff over tomorrow during the day with a note that says 'I do not have your gray sweats.' I don't want to reply and break NC, especially if this is just him trying to upset me. Keep in mind that the 3 clothing items I have are things he DOES NOT USE/NEED. I didn't even realize I had one of the shirts until a few weeks ago (when we had already broken up) and he didn't know I had it until I told him. Advice?
Giha Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 Do you have a mutual friend? If so then I'd ask him to give him all the stuff and tell him you don't so and so. If you don't have a way to deliver the stuff without breaking NC then maybe you could send it via mail with a note... 1
Hopeinme Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 I say avoid seeing him if possible. The idea above is really good, the mutual friend can be of help or the postman i hope you heal soon x
aloneinaz Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 He's using those items of no value to get you to communicate w/him. I'd ignore him and like the other said, have a neutral party drop off what you do have of his. I totally agree with you about sticking to NC. He ended the relationship. You owe him nothing. Worry about you and your healing.
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