Author TrebleClef Posted June 28, 2013 Author Posted June 28, 2013 New guy asked could we sit and talk. I obliged him. He talked and apologized for coming on too strongly and wanting "instant relationship" (my words ). He promised he'd slow down and calm down. I've heard him say that before. *shrugs* I get that he may not have known how to react or what to do when the deaths in my family happened during our "getting to know each other" time. The deaths did start soon after we met each other. He says he felt like he was in this "relationship" alone and like I wasn't into him. Hell, I don't know him yet!!!! I asked him did he want me to just go hard and dive in head first? He claimed that's not what he meant. IDK, something is off. I guess his actions have tainted my view of him? Plus, I'm bored with him. I can sit at home and watch movies by myself and if I'm going to talk on the phone for hours on end it had better be a stimulating intellectual conversation. "What are you doing now?" is not my idea of stimulating conversation. I don't want to do that with a man I'm supposedly trying to get to know. This is his idea of spending time with each other? Initially, he took me out often, whined and dined me and pursued me. It has all come to a screeching hault. So much so that I inquired about it and he said he ran into a financial snag and had a prior (before he met me) financial obligation that has taken a toll on his wallet. I definitely can understand that, however, there're tons of things we can do and places we can go for little to no money. He whines about his physical ailments, complains and gripes too much about work and his employees and throws out--what I call--subliminal hints and phrases (i.e. "if I had a woman who cared about me, I'd ask her to give me a massage to relieve some of my stress"). I do agree with him on something: This IS a strange beginning. What do you guys think? Should I endure/wait it out or keep it moving? I tell you, I'm about to call it quits on this whole dating thing period. I've loved and lost and have had my heart broken into a million pieces. So, I can't say I haven't had a full dating life, right? I am curious to know what it feels like to be genuinely adored and loved by a man and doted after with REAL care not just BS and playing. *heavy sigh*
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