Aleasha Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 My bf broke up with me 2 months ago we have been talking in between and he has expressed to me that he is still emotionally attached is this a good thing? We have decided to start dating again and start fresh get to know each other again we also have a child together. My question is, is emotional attachment a good thing? I would appreciate genuine comments plz thanks for reading xx
Author Aleasha Posted June 22, 2013 Author Posted June 22, 2013 Thanks for replying Well he was my first boyfriend my first love we have been together 6 yrs I love him and care about him he knows this we did not want to let each other go that's why he suggested dating again we still have a spark and strong chemistry there
Follower Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 (edited) People aren't replying because they may not know how to advise. If you plan on dating again i would say emotional attachment is a requirement, wouldn't you say? To be honest this sounds far more like a rough patch than a sincere break up. If you guys are really going to hit it off again you need to fix whatever lead you two to decide to break up. Hope it all works out. Edited June 23, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator removed personal attack 2
Inviv_girl Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 My bf broke up with me 2 months ago we have been talking in between and he has expressed to me that he is still emotionally attached is this a good thing? We have decided to start dating again and start fresh get to know each other again we also have a child together. My question is, is emotional attachment a good thing? I would appreciate genuine comments plz thanks for reading xx I don't understand why you two broke up at the first place if there were still "emotionally attached"?? Anyway 2 months is a short time to realized what mistakes you both made to the break up.
Author Aleasha Posted June 22, 2013 Author Posted June 22, 2013 Well we did actually break up he left the family home, we got comfortable in the relationship and took each other for granted, spent less time together as a couple we lived separate lives until he said he wanted out.we was finding it hard to let each other go, we have been together 6 yrs, he suggested that we should start fresh as a new couple, and start dating taking it slow, we are going away for two nights next weeks to bond and build new memories. I just want my little family back, thanks for taking the time out to read my post with genuine replies thanks
aloneinaz Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 What's going to change this time? What happens if you get back together and the new "honeymoon phase" ends. How are you two not going to go back to the same routine where you don't take each other for granted? Trust me, I'm an expert due to my ex and I breaking up and getting back together again MULTIPLE times. It would be great for a week or two after getting back together then the same crap would start all over again. The last time she dumped me and we got back together, she promised she'd go to therapy to address her issues that were ruining the relationship. She did until she didn't like what the therapist told her (that she was wrong). What I learned is people don't change their CORE beings. yes, they can quit smoking or drinking or drugs, but their core behavior and how they view the world can't be changed. I hope it works for you guys but it's going to be A LOT OF WORK on both your parts to make it work long term. 1
Author Aleasha Posted June 23, 2013 Author Posted June 23, 2013 Well we are both taking things slowly we are not rushing anything, this is our first proper break up. We know what the problems are, and have dealt with them, if you don't get to the core of the problem then it won't work. We have talked about our relationship and we know what went wrong, so we are going to put those wrongs right.
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