StephanieJayne Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 We were dating for four months, he said he has feelings for me but didn't want a relationship. He wanted to stay friends but I have told him I cannot be friends with him right now because I still have feelings for him and its best we cut contact. I have not contacted him at all its been 3 weeks and he has been calling each week, sends me drunken texts saying he cares about me and for me not to cut him off. Last night he sent me a text asking if we can talk yet. I have not replied to any of his contact.. Am I doing the right thing? Should I consider being friends with him? he is making this extremely hard for me to move on
SadPanda22 Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 (edited) Yes, you are doing the right thing by cutting contact with him (congrats on 3 weeks of NC , I know how difficult it is). You should be friends with him if/when you are ready to be. You should not be friends with him because he is guilt tripping you into it. He decided that he didn't want a romantic relationship with you, but he would like to be friends. You have explicitly told him that at this point in time you cannot be his friend because you still have feelings for him. He needs to respect that. He also needs to respect the fact that you need time to heal, and in order to do that you must cut contact. He is being very selfish right now by continuing to contact you after you told him how you felt. Would you be opposed to blocking his number so that he can no longer pester you and interfere with your healing process? Edited June 22, 2013 by SadPanda22
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