LK30 Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Hi all, I'm 33 and going through a bit of an odd situation. Really my life is good and I'm so thankful for it, but for some reason I don't feel totally happy. The good things that have happened are: 1) A year ago my son moved back from Somerset with his mum so I see him lots and he lives locally. 2) Last month I bought a brand new car. 3) I have recently met the most lovely girl. 4) My job isn't great but it's secure. I work very close to my office. 5) I rent my brother's house and enjoying my own space. It's probably the best it's been, but I just do not seem to feel happy like I know I should. I think a lot of it is down to number 3... I date a girl in my office who I flirted with at Christmas and now we're in a relationship. I'm not good at relationships so think I fear them. Much of it was sexual chemistry and secrecy as we kept it quiet to avoid awkwardness in the office. She's perfect though and she has only met my brother and sister-in-law so far but they love her. However for some reason over the past week I've lost a bit of interest. It may be because she told me she loved me last week. I find it hard to be in love as I'm not emotional, but I'm just such a worrier even my best mate has said 'relax and enjoy it!' I worried that perhaps she's not the one for me, but because I'm not feeling great about all the other things, for example I didn't really feel any excitement about getting myself a new car, that I really really really hope that I'm not going to lose interest in this girl as she's so nice and I don't want to lose her as I know I'll regret it. Part of me feels a bit inadequate. I know her ex husband earns double what I do, he's brilliant at DIY (I've seen the pics of the house they sold recently and he did it all up from scratch). I also know she enjoys spending money and the finer things in life. Well, I'm not that well off! I almost feel like I can't be as good, and I feel under pressure as I know he didn't treat her nice at all. I wondered if I was a bit depressed, but I don't think I am because I don't get emotional, I don't have trouble getting out of bed, I don't get feelings of wanting to self harm, I manage to go about my daily routine, and things like sleeping, eating and socialising are all fine. Any encouragement would be great because I find myself often needing reassurance, even from her, and I feel inadequate and I don't know why
Hopeinme Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Since you feel she's really a nice girl, maybe it is worth giving a shot? You should take things slow and maybe even tell her how you feel it's soo good that she's in love with you and that means you do not have to worry about qhetwr you earm more than her ex-husband. I am sure she is not looking for that, she probably wants to enjoy the finer things in life with you. I say take your time and take things easy. I hope you are clearer about thinfs soon!
Recommended Posts