Imajerk17 Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Was in a coffee shop working on my stuff studying. A cute girl walked in, so I went over and talked to her and got her number, and then she left. Not 2 minutes later after the first girl left a just-as-cute girl walked in. I didn't have the nerve to go over and talk to her and get her number and so she left. Chatting up 2 girls in 5 minutes felt a little sketchy to me. Thoughts?
melodymatters Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Good call ! It is a surprisingly small world, even in big cities, and for all you know Girl #1' or #2's friend works at the coffee shop, and you don't want to be known as " The coffee shop creep". First time, good on you ! Later at a different place also fine, same day, same place = sleazy.
pteromom Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Yeah, you don't want to be known as the guy who hits on girls at the coffee shop, but at the same time, losing out on opportunities based on what others might think about it seems limiting. That 2nd girl may have been awesome.
Ripnet Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 No big deal, grocery stores, coffee shops, parks it doesn't matter. Some numbers will probably be fake.
Star Gazer Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Yeah, you don't want to be known as the guy who hits on girls at the coffee shop, but at the same time, losing out on opportunities based on what others might think about it seems limiting. That 2nd girl may have been awesome. I agree with this. If you frequent that coffee shop (or any other place, like a gym - wink, wink...), you need to be selective... but you risk losing an opportunity.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Most of the responses here are nonsense. If you wanted to talk to the girl, you should have done it. Both in dating and in life, you'll get much further by not worrying about what people think of you. 1
ThaWholigan Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Meh - I probably wouldn't have done it either . Still, I think it wouldn't have been as "sketchy" as you think it is.
Star Gazer Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Both in dating and in life, you'll get much further by not worrying about what people think of you. Such as the girls you're approaching, really?
sillyanswer Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Thoughts? I'm thinking "Cool! You've got her number!" 1
Ripnet Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Most of the responses here are nonsense. If you wanted to talk to the girl, you should have done it. Both in dating and in life, you'll get much further by not worrying about what people think of you. I certainly agree. It could even positive if they like the guy. If you let other people control your life you're being controlled. It's not something a real man would worry about.
Author Imajerk17 Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 (edited) Haha. I already got one girl's phone number. I was happy about that. She seems awesome. Maybe I just didnt want to be greedy. I didn't need to get *both* of the women, save some for the other guys! Seriously its not a nunbers game. I just need 1... Edited June 21, 2013 by Imajerk17 3
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 Haha. I already got one girl's phone number. I was happy about that. She seems awesome. Maybe I just didnt want to be greedy. I didn't need to get *both* of the women, save some for the other guys! Seriously its not a nunbers game. I just need 1... It is a numbers game to a certain degree, no matter how good you are with women and how many women you want.
The Shepherd Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 You got her number, but what if she changes her mind and doesn't respond? What if it doesn't workout after a few dates? She will check all her other options too, right?
Lansing Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 Good job on getting the number. Try to convert it into a date but if you don't get a call back or whatever don't get too upset and keep meeting new girls.
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