overseas2004 Posted October 14, 2004 Posted October 14, 2004 I know what all the girls are going to say but I need a mans opinion only please. I will be brief I promise There is this guy that I work with. We see each other from time to time, unfortunately we are hardly ever alone. Last week, he called me and asked me to go to a job site with him. He made it so that he ended up driving me. After finishing the work we had he offered to take me out for coffee. We had a pleasant conversation and laughed alot. I told him alot about where I have lived and travelled, and there was some talk about my life in the States as an attorney. He chose to tel me a story about Boris Beckham the tennis player and how some woman gave him oral sex and then went to a sperm bank and purposefully inseminated herself. I thought that was pretty weird to be mentioning to a girl if you are trying to impress her... But whatever. Then he mentioned some nice places we could go in the future(including his beach house). I made sure to say that would be nice. After that he asked me about my age (37). I asked him about his he said "42". Then he asked "is that too old". I said no. I ended the coffee date after 1 and 1/2 hours by saying we should leave and I had to get back to work. On our way back he made no concrete date with me. I have talked to him twice since then and no luck... no date. Ok so here is my questions? 1. What are the reasonable explanations for this? People tend to tell me he is scared of me. Alot of people tell me men are scared of me. But I am not sure to believe that? How many of you could have said all of the above without clinching the deal? 2. I hate asking guys out... totally hate it. How can I do this without looking like a jerk.... and letting him see how into him I am. 3. I know some of you may say move on but I live in a country where there arent that many single guys my age. He fits the bill perfectly all around.. Its hard to let this one go? 4. Do you think he has someone?
Papillon Posted October 14, 2004 Posted October 14, 2004 1) Who knows? Sounds to me like he digs you. 2) By asking him out. 3) And your question is? 4) Who knows? Chances are he doesn't. overseas..... you have to reach out for the things you want. If you're going to sit around waiting for this guy to romance you, he's going to think you're not interested and lose interest himself. He's not young anymore, and he knows what he wants. He's looking for qeues from you. Give him some, dangit!
Author overseas2004 Posted October 14, 2004 Author Posted October 14, 2004 Ok he called again. And guess what... asked me all about my weekend plans. I was sure that he was about to ask me out. Then he told me all about his weekend plans. Teased me that he was going to be busy thanks to my contract revisions. Mentioned a gala dinner at the Italian embassy. Flirted with me. AND YES DID NOT ASK ME OUT AGAIN.
ps123 Posted October 16, 2004 Posted October 16, 2004 That is strange. From what youve said, it sounds like hes interested, but is unwilling to ask you out. Is he shy at all? Im thinking he might be the type that doesnt like to make the first move. The fact that he had to do that whole work thing just to ask you to grab some coffee makes me think that. Has he been burned by women before? Maybe hes overly afraid of rejection. I used to be the type (Im not anymore) that wouldnt make any moves until I was positive she was really interested. I guess I had some fears of rejection. I also used to be pretty much oblivious to signs that women were interested and hitting on me. A female friend of mine used to tell me that a women would have to take off her undies and throw em at me before Id get the hint . Maybe hes like that. Im thinking you might have to give some really obvious hints or else just ask him out, and my suggestion would be, if you want to go out with him, then just ask him. Ive been asked out by women a lot and I dont mind it at all. I like it actually. I dont think it should always be up to the man to make the first move.
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