missfit1024 Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Hi, this is my first time posting on this site and I am looking forward to your feedback. I need to figure out if a co-worker is interested or not. I started working for a new company on June 1 and my co-worker and I hit it off immediately. He's flirtatious and so am I, and our conversations flow naturally. I've known since the first week of work that I was somewhat interested but since we're in a working environment decided to take it very slow. I have only become more interested in him since, in fact I think about him often, I get excited when our paths cross, and I miss him during the weekends. The problem is that he is sending me mixed signals. Like I said, he's very flirtatious, but he's a big people person so I'm really not sure if this is at all unique to me. Recently, in the past two weeks, we've become better friends, texting outside of work, almost daily. Our conversation the other day turned to me asking him why he's still single and he mentioned holding out for the right girl. Then the next day I saw him having a pretty intense conversation and he willingly offered up the information that it was a girl who was getting too clingy and he made it clear he wasn't interested in being her man. That night (Wednesday) we went out together and had sushi, still discussing relationships, getting to know one another, laughing, etc. It felt like a date, but ended like two co-workers who just had sushi, no hug, definitely no kiss, etc. Also, I'm 28 and I found out on this sushi excursion that he was born in 1991, making him 21. I texted him that night to clarify and told him I still thought he was awesome even though he's so young to be in his position at work. The next day (yesterday) we spent the whole day together in his office, chatting about our lives. He brought up the age thing later and asked me something to the effect of "so you calculated me age?" and then I jokingly said "yeah, there was a good 15 minute window where I wasn't sure how I felt about you being that young" and he looked me in the eye and said "I've known how old you are for a while and I never felt it mattered" then he asked me if I had figured him out yet to which I replied "what does that mean? do you want me to summarize my thoughts on you in one sentence? I could write a paragraph maybe, but not one sentence." He then again, looked me in the eye and said "I could write two pages on you" and I told him I wanted it on my desk the next morning. He also later mentioned his parents having an 11 year age difference, his mom being the older one, and how he consulted them and they said at first the difference was evident, but as time went on it didn't matter. Of course I analyzed this as him being interested and comparing our friendship to his parents relationship. Later that day (yesterday) we were in his office (of course) and he started singing which kills me. I've actually had to leave the room before to avoid melting, or exploding, or something. His voice causes an immediate chemical reaction in my body where my heart feels as if it's going to beat out of my chest. After he stopped he looked at me and randomly asked me if I wanted him to pop my back. This sounds weird, but we're in the fitness industry and it's not uncommon. I said yes of course, simply because I wanted to feel his arms around me. I tensed up, got nervous, and left his office in a rush like a weirdo. The entire day I should mention that there were moments I felt as if he was about to kiss me, where our eyes locked, we were silent, and then one of us broke the silence, ruining it. After I left his office there was no doubt in my mind he was interested so I texted him telling him that his voice got my heart racing and he needed to stop of I'd die of a heart attack. He texted back later with "so you want me to stop?" then "I don't even think I've really sang around you" and then me saying "No, don't stop" with absolutely no reply for like two hours. Finally I wrote back saying "sorry for being unprofessional, forget I said anything, see you Monday". Then he said something like " you mean you weren't really asking me to stop because you thought you would ACTUALLY die? lol" I ignored the text for hours because I was embarrassed by my very forward advance and his weird responses. Then, hours later he writes me back just chatting about the Spurs game that was on last night, followed by another text at 11:30 at night of a sad face since the spurs lost. Seriously!!! Does this guy like me or not?! Sorry for the novel.
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