skydragon Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 I am having trouble talking to my girlfriend. We both graduated from nursing school (just to give the maturity level). I find that it is easier to text her but when I talk to her in person or over the phone I just don't know what to say. She also doesn't help me much either becuase she never asks questions when I try to talk. Our conversations are always one sided. I do my best to ask questions and what not to try to keep it going but I can never say anything even when I have the spot light. I think another reason that has to deal with me shutting down is that she is very critical. She's a grammar nazi and criticizes or corrects me when I say a sentence wrong or something. Any suggestions on how to add more input into the conversation. I have no issues talking to other people outside of the relationship.
MissBee Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Hmmm...I don't know what to tell you. For me, that's the first thing I look for: my comfort level and the ease of having a conversation on the phone and in person. (I don't like texting incessantly). If I feel awkward talking to a guy, if I feel like I am reaching for things to say, if I feel like the conversation doesn't flow and we can't just talk for hours...I personally wouldn't date them. If we can't talk, how can we be in a relationship? I can't personally. The first thing which hooks me is my ability to just flow and vibe with a guy and have lengthy, stimulating, funny, critical, and relaxed conversations. Even if I don't think he is that cute physically, if we can talk easily, he can get it lol. If that isn't there....then there is nowhere for us to go.
Author skydragon Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 Yea I see what you mean. We do have times where the conversation flows good but it feels like it depends on her mood. I hate to say it but I think she has bipolar disorder. Her mom has been diagnosed with it. When she's happy go lucky its very easy to hold a conversation. But then the minute I feel as if she has an attitude or a negative vibe that's when I'm very very careful of what I will say. We have been going out for 9 months or so.
melodicintention Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 Yea I see what you mean. We do have times where the conversation flows good but it feels like it depends on her mood. I hate to say it but I think she has bipolar disorder. Her mom has been diagnosed with it. When she's happy go lucky its very easy to hold a conversation. But then the minute I feel as if she has an attitude or a negative vibe that's when I'm very very careful of what I will say. We have been going out for 9 months or so. Sounds like you are trying to come up with excuses so you can transfer the blame onto her of why you don't have the courage to speak to her. This isn't her problem or fault, it's you. If you can't speak to your girlfriend then either you shouldn't be with her, or you need to get some sort of counseling because that is so not normal. It is likely symptomatic of this modern trend in using texting to communicate among the younger generations, and likely you have gotten so used to it you never really developed interpersonal socialization skills. You really need to look within for the cause of your communication short comings. I would suggest seeking some sort of counseling for this problem.
Author skydragon Posted June 22, 2013 Author Posted June 22, 2013 Sounds like you are trying to come up with excuses so you can transfer the blame onto her of why you don't have the courage to speak to her. This isn't her problem or fault, it's you. If you can't speak to your girlfriend then either you shouldn't be with her, or you need to get some sort of counseling because that is so not normal. It is likely symptomatic of this modern trend in using texting to communicate among the younger generations, and likely you have gotten so used to it you never really developed interpersonal socialization skills. You really need to look within for the cause of your communication short comings. I would suggest seeking some sort of counseling for this problem. That is not true. Like I said, I have no problem to talking to other people outside of the relationship in person. Especially other girls. Before we started dating we would talk in person easily and there are also times during the relationship where we do talk for hours on the phone and have deep conversations in person. Lately it has just been quite a bit of silence. I don't know if it's because we spent too much time together that I ran out of things to say or what.
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