Girlfriend hangs out with her guy friend while he's in town.

[BCS3491]

My girlfriend tends to always hang out with her good guy friend while he's in town. I have no problem with her being friends with other guy's, but she cheated on me a couple months ago and it's hard to except her going and hanging out with other guys now. Am I wrong to feel this way? Or is it understandable for me to feel like it's disrecpectful of her to still hang out with another guy, after what she did to me?

[CarrieT]

If he is a really good friend, you would be introduced and invited to join them.

 

Otherwise, it is unacceptable.

 

/End Thread.

[hppr]

My girlfriend tends to always hang out with her good guy friend while he's in town. I have no problem with her being friends with other guy's, but she cheated on me a couple months ago and it's hard to except her going and hanging out with other guys now. Am I wrong to feel this way? Or is it understandable for me to feel like it's disrecpectful of her to still hang out with another guy, after what she did to me?

 

Let me give you some advice.

 

If they like you then you will be their best guy friend too. They won't prioritize other men over you. If she does then she's still trying to play the field.

[BCS3491]

The thing is, she always tells me I'm her bestfriend and I mean everything to her. We are coming up on being together for 1 year, so that's why I see this as a sign of disrespect that she can go hang out with him so easily and feel ok with it, even though she says I mean so much to her. Being a guy, I told her that no matter how close they are as friends, if her "friend" respected her relationship with me, he wouldn't ask her to hang out everytime he came back to town.

[BCS3491]

She cheated on you in under a year and has no boundaries. You'd best be dumping this girl.

 

To be honest, I'm started to get to that point of where I feel like the things she does sometimes just aren't right, no matter how many times she's told me she never means to hurt feelings or disrespect me, the same things happen over and over again. I know I have a good heart, and that's why I'm still with her, because I gave her another chance, yet I've seen no change in the things she said she wouldn't do anymore. I just don't know when it's the right time to call it quits.

[Ryan9]

It's not a good thing. Put it that way. If something doesn't feel right, it isn't.

[hppr]

The thing is, she always tells me I'm her bestfriend and I mean everything to her. We are coming up on being together for 1 year

 

So you've been together for a year, she's cheated on you once and she's all 'best friends' with some dude whom you haven't met. I know the feeling since I've been there before but really it is just a bad situation all around and no matter what you do she's not going to change. So just end it. Like the other guy said be thankful you aren't married with a house and kids in the middle of this.

[Lansing]

If she isn't inviting you along at least part of the time I would end it. I would have ended it when she cheated on me (talking sex with another guy or kissing?)

[therhythm]

I would have said that she had the full right to have her own friends but since she has cheated on you she has lost some of her rights till she earns back your trust... You are totally right to feel the way you feel and if she is worth the try she would understand why...