LostGirl11 Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Not much to say really. 11 days NC. Not really had any urges to contact him. The thought makes me cringe. Yeah, I miss him but I just remind myself of the bad times. I hate counting my days of NC because I'm sure he hasn't even noticted. I know, it doesn't matter.... I think the medication is helping with the obsessive thoughts I was having. Like, it if try to think about him it feels like a switch gets flipped after a certain amount of time and I can no longer think about him. Does that make sense? I just hope this isn't the calm before the storm.
HopelessRomantick Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 You sound like you are doing just fine. Just keep doing what you're doing and keep busy. 2
aloneinaz Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Not much to say really. 11 days NC. Not really had any urges to contact him. The thought makes me cringe. Yeah, I miss him but I just remind myself of the bad times. I hate counting my days of NC because I'm sure he hasn't even noticted. I know, it doesn't matter.... I think the medication is helping with the obsessive thoughts I was having. Like, it if try to think about him it feels like a switch gets flipped after a certain amount of time and I can no longer think about him. Does that make sense? I just hope this isn't the calm before the storm. How long have you been on the Zoloft now? It could be helping quiet you brain down a bit so it doesn't allow you to think too much about it.
Author LostGirl11 Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 How long have you been on the Zoloft now? It could be helping quiet you brain down a bit so it doesn't allow you to think too much about it. About 11 days. It seems that way, which is what I needed. Crazy how they work.
aloneinaz Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Not much to say really. 11 days NC. Not really had any urges to contact him. The thought makes me cringe. Yeah, I miss him but I just remind myself of the bad times. I hate counting my days of NC because I'm sure he hasn't even noticted. I know, it doesn't matter.... I think the medication is helping with the obsessive thoughts I was having. Like, it if try to think about him it feels like a switch gets flipped after a certain amount of time and I can no longer think about him. Does that make sense? I just hope this isn't the calm before the storm. How long have you been on the Zoloft now? It could be helping quiet you brain down a bit so it doesn't allow you to think too much about it.
landshark Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Yes, keep yourself busy, read Caliguy's NC guide every day. Read posts of people that broke NC and regretted it, I'm one of them, and it set me back months and set me up for disrespect from her. Do not get a hold of this guy it won't make you feel better. Quoting Tara Maiden "NC is cold turkey for the heart." Let us know how things are going...p.s. shout out to AZ!! 1
Author LostGirl11 Posted June 22, 2013 Author Posted June 22, 2013 Yes, keep yourself busy, read Caliguy's NC guide every day. Read posts of people that broke NC and regretted it, I'm one of them, and it set me back months and set me up for disrespect from her. Do not get a hold of this guy it won't make you feel better. Quoting Tara Maiden "NC is cold turkey for the heart." Let us know how things are going...p.s. shout out to AZ!! I've broken NC many times. He treated me even worse this time around and I'll never forget that.
JustAReformedGirl Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 I've broken NC many times. He treated me even worse this time around and I'll never forget that. Use that as your motivation; if he's treated you worse with each NC situation, than he clearly doesn't deserve your time or heart. Is there a back story to all of this, such as another thread you created?
forgetmenot75 Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 Lostgirl, I find your post revealing. I've broke NC a lot of times too, but this last time was the worst. He didn't show any respect whatsoever for me, and he treated me like a doormat. I think they realize we don't have self esteem, and they can do whatever they want with us, because we'll always accept the sh*t they give to us. He's lost the little respect he's had for me after I broke the last NC, it is very painful to realize this. 1
Author LostGirl11 Posted June 22, 2013 Author Posted June 22, 2013 Use that as your motivation; if he's treated you worse with each NC situation, than he clearly doesn't deserve your time or heart. Is there a back story to all of this, such as another thread you created? Yes, there are many other threads, they go back a year!
Author LostGirl11 Posted June 22, 2013 Author Posted June 22, 2013 Lostgirl, I find your post revealing. I've broke NC a lot of times too, but this last time was the worst. He didn't show any respect whatsoever for me, and he treated me like a doormat. I think they realize we don't have self esteem, and they can do whatever they want with us, because we'll always accept the sh*t they give to us. He's lost the little respect he's had for me after I broke the last NC, it is very painful to realize this. What I meant be 'this time around' was that he broke up with me in January, he begged me to give it another go, which I stupidly agreed to. He was lovely to start off with (fake) then went back to his old ways and had me in tears every week. He treated me like utter crap. I have no respect for him at all now. I wouldn't piss on him if he were on fire.
landshark Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 Good girl now do it, or better, don't...if I learned anything from this site it's that NC is the only way. Too many stories like yours and mine where you just get treated horribly as if they snift out your desperation. Stick to it, you deserve a whole lot better than this...and yes, if his face where on fire, I wouldn't put in out with a fork!
Author LostGirl11 Posted June 22, 2013 Author Posted June 22, 2013 Good girl now do it, or better, don't...if I learned anything from this site it's that NC is the only way. Too many stories like yours and mine where you just get treated horribly as if they snift out your desperation. Stick to it, you deserve a whole lot better than this...and yes, if his face where on fire, I wouldn't put in out with a fork! He won't ever hear from me again. Maybe one day he'll realise how horrible he was to me, and I hope he feels guilty because if I treated anyone the way he did me I'd never forgive myself. I have no idea what these antidepressants have done, it's like they've woke me up. I once told him that I'd take a bullet for him. How things can change! 1
landshark Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 He won't ever hear from me again. Maybe one day he'll realise how horrible he was to me, and I hope he feels guilty because if I treated anyone the way he did me I'd never forgive myself. I have no idea what these antidepressants have done, it's like they've woke me up. I once told him that I'd take a bullet for him. How things can change! This guy sounds atrocious, I wouldn't bank on him showing any sort of remorse. Mine actually invited me to her graduation along with her parents and new bf, SERIOUSLY?? That is how low she thinks of me, that was over two months ago, and I broke NC three weeks after that, huge mistake...Girl you're saying the right things, now journal, have fun with friends, and write that letter that you never send....
Author LostGirl11 Posted June 22, 2013 Author Posted June 22, 2013 This guy sounds atrocious, I wouldn't bank on him showing any sort of remorse. Mine actually invited me to her graduation along with her parents and new bf, SERIOUSLY?? That is how low she thinks of me, that was over two months ago, and I broke NC three weeks after that, huge mistake...Girl you're saying the right things, now journal, have fun with friends, and write that letter that you never send.... You're right. The man has no empathy and hasn't got a caring bone in his body. I'm sure karma will bite him in the arse though. Your ex sounds crazy, who would do that? Why did you contact her? What was said? 1
landshark Posted June 23, 2013 Posted June 23, 2013 You're right. The man has no empathy and hasn't got a caring bone in his body. I'm sure karma will bite him in the arse though. Your ex sounds crazy, who would do that? Why did you contact her? What was said? Seriously, she had invited me to her graduation and we had plans to go skiing so I thought that things were getting better so I broke NC. She cancelled on the skiing owing it to some bogus injury (found out that she went instead with her new bf) and we got together a week later (mistake). Confronted her about her bf and she caved. Asked her about if she was going to tell me before her graduation. She said that I was still invited and I asked her on what planet would I agree to go with her bf and parents there. She said we should be friends, I told her i don't do friends with exes and people that lie and blow me off. Three weeks later, I had a long text back and forth with her...realized I was wasting my time. Its been two months...feeling the pain that comes with NC.Is she crazy? Maybe. Trying to make herself feel better by offering insincere friendship? No doubt... You, Lost, seem further along the path than I am, good for you...
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