figuringitoutx Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 So, I need some advice on this whole ex situation. Can a second chance really work? I'm just looking for peoples' experiences with getting back together with an ex, whether it worked or not. I know a few people who have gotten back together and it seems to work, but I don't know. So share your stories? I'm not sure if it's a good idea to even begin dabbling with my ex again. 1
travelonic Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 In my unprofessional opinion, the answer is neither yes, nor a no, but rather a straight 'it depends.' It seems, from what I've read here, that a second chance working depends on the people involved, the relationship, the nature of the breakup itself, time apart to contemplate what was going on and even develop/grow/heal, and the effort put in by both sides when a second chance is desired mutually. [what a mouthful, eh? ]
hinatticus Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 I agree with above poster. I'm getting my second chance and its working out pretty good. I've got a lot of the bases covered regarding successful second chances so I'm not too worried. 1
SweetiePie12 Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 Can a second chance really work? Definitely! So share your stories? I'm not sure if it's a good idea to even begin dabbling with my ex again. If you can't live without this person, let them know! We got back together today (!!!!!!!!) and he said: I can tell how much you love me. He doesn't know this by reading my mind. I made it plain.
SimonSerenade Posted June 24, 2013 Posted June 24, 2013 It can work but it depends on the effort being there for both partners in the relationship, if you love the person then it couldn't hurt to give it another go and see where it goes. I made mistakes with my last second chance, I tried to fix too much too fast and entered too emotionally hot expecting too much, it's overwhelming for some people and it can lead to pushing the person farther away. Have patience, take every day as it comes, feelings may be frantic at first and may go up and down like a blue ass fly as time goes on but it's like that in any relationship, phases come and go, stick it out a while and see where you stand in a couple of weeks time emotionally and go from there. I didn't regret my second chance, it bought me some more time with the woman I loved more than life it self and I really did cherish that time we spent together, as brief as it was, so wether it works or not, it's always worth a shot.
simplyamazing Posted June 25, 2013 Posted June 25, 2013 It all depends on why you broke up. Cheaters and second chances make for hard work. Most times it's just easier, and better to move on. GIGS and second chances can work, but I think that's hard, too. Being left so your ex can play the field is hard to take. I haven't experienced this, but I highly doubt I would ever take back an ex that had GIGS. The only two real scenarios a second chance can work, imo, is when: a) you didn't want to continue a relationship at that time, not because of your partner.. but maybe it was just hard to focus on other things, etc.. something like that. b) it's mutual, and you both realize that it may have been a mistake to end it.
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