lostinlove101 Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 I'm in a delicate state so please be gentle. Long story short reconnected with someone I dated 10+ years ago and we hit it off again (recently), enjoyed each others' company etc. When we talked on the phone it was rarely for less than an hour. We dated for about 6 weeks and I asked him what he was looking for in his life (i.e. is he even INTERESTED in a relationship). After that the connection slowly dissolved, he told me I was too "intense." We talked about things briefly after that to wrap things up, but I still am taking his feedback very personally and somehow am making the end of the relationship my fault (in my mind). We've been friends in the past and have agreed to do so again, but now I'm kind of afraid to be me, because I don't understand fully what he meant by intense- his examples of my intensity didn't really make sense to me- I'm pretty self aware and introspective... I guess I'm trying to make peace with this all... His life isn't together, and he is still working on dealing with the break up of his last relationship- so he says. Do I try to reach out to him for further resolution/clarification? Do I wait for him to contact me to continue our friendship? Do I throw the baby out with the bathwater and move the hell on? I'm stumped on it somehow being my fault (even though things are rarely that black and white) and trying to find resolution around that. Thoughts and feedback welcomed. Thanks
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