kameron Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 So my ex gf and I broke up a month ago she left me for her ex bf. I started thinking hard about it and realized my ex gf had a drinking problem she was an alcoholic. I didn't like this and always gave her a hard time about it. I don't drink at all. And her ex bf loved to drink all the time as well. Could she have left me for this reason. And will a relationship with two alcoholics last. 1
bluegreen Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 I doubt it my ex was am certain alcoholic although he would rather die then admit it. That just means she has no control over herself and her actions and is capable of rationalizing then in any way or sense it works for her. As a partner they make lousy ones and its good that she is with someone else now can you imagine two stinky slobbery messes they are now EWWWW 1
Author kameron Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 Yea they both drink every day. I tried to save her from being an alcoholic and after 2 years she went right back to the guy that excepts it. 1
bluegreen Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 And that was your mistake you can't save anyone unless they want to be saved I had this issue with him as well. Bye the time he is in his mid 30 he will need a liver transplant am sure and out of 5 days a week two he is drunk like skunk on vacation is daily occurrence how sad for someone young.
Author kameron Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 Yea my ex Is 23 she would drink all the time. She chewed snus. And iI was the good boyfriend trying to help her. What does she do goes back to the guy that drinks just as much as her
bluegreen Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 What she wants simple as that she wants to drink and be able to do it without anyone telling her she can't does she know she is ruining her life yeah perhaps she does she just does not care. Drop the matter out of your head and feel blessed you do not have to explain to your kids why is mommie stumbling around the house or wrapped herself around three in car accident.
Author kameron Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 I know I know but she was my first love. Its so hard. I'm miserable every single day. I just wanna know the truth can two alcoholics make a good couple or will the relationship fall apart.
Author kameron Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 I have tried everything. I think I'm going to be miserable forever. I can't stop thinking about her for some reason. It sucks so bad. I feel so pathetic. But I miss her so much she was my first love. The first girl I ever moved in with.
Author kameron Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 I really wish you knew how much pain I am in. It's horrable. I broke no contact yesterday I was on day 20. And when I texted her she didn't reply then I texted her more and more and no reply ): I hate being ignored it sucks so bad
Author kameron Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 I know I'm failing im a miserable wreck. Its to the point of why even live anymore.
Author kameron Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 She won't even message me back I dont get it how can you just ignore someone that was so good to you. Ughhhh this sucks so bad.
Author kameron Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 The reason I texted her was because she owes me a grand for the security deposit on our place. I moved out and let her keep the deposit. She promised to pay me when she had the money. And she won't contact me at all. She kept my laptop and all sorts of my stuff and won't let me have my things. She moved her ex in our house. I got so screwed out of this.
Author kameron Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 How can people be so cruel. I'm such a good person and didn't deserve this
aloneinaz Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 (edited) How can people be so cruel. I'm such a good person and didn't deserve this Sadly, it's a part of life Kameron. Good people get dumped all the time, it happens everyday. We can't control what others do to us but we CAN control how WE react to it. You're emotional because you broke NC. When you brake no contact, you risk opening yourself up for rejection a second time. This is how you're feeling since she ignored you. These strong feelings will pass, trust me. I bet by tomorrow, you'll be feeling better. Metal Chic gave you some great suggestions to move forward with your life. YOU have to take those first steps. Remember, there's MILLIONS who have felt like you do right now and they healed and moved on to find new love and happiness. Edited June 21, 2013 by aloneinaz
SweetiePie12 Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 Yea they both drink every day. I tried to save her from being an alcoholic and after 2 years she went right back to the guy that excepts it. If you were giving her a hard time about it, she probably wanted to be with someone who has a similar lifestyle as herself. I spend time with someone who doesn't drink, but he'd never hassle me about having a glass of wine. I was respectful of his lifestyle and hesitant to do it in front of him at first, but once I did and the vibe was OK, ...I enjoyed a glorious glass of Moscato with (not with) him the other night. So, yes, I think hassling your exgf was a mistake. Non drinkers and drinkers can get along. Just means there's more to go around/bottles of wine last longer for the drinker in those situations
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