First date after end of LTR

[mfleck91]

So tomorrow I have my first date since the end of my 4 year relationship 4 months ago. Needless to say I'm a nervous wreck.

 

I've never really had to date before, my ex and I were school mates in high school and we just sort of happened. I am still sore from my break up but I want to be able to move forward.

 

I really just don't know what to expect. It's a fun casual date. We're going mini golfing and go carting. Should I pay for her stuff, should I try to go in for a kiss at the end of the night?

 

Any tips would be extremely helpful!

[Ripnet]

So tomorrow I have my first date since the end of my 4 year relationship 4 months ago. Needless to say I'm a nervous wreck.

 

I've never really had to date before, my ex and I were school mates in high school and we just sort of happened. I am still sore from my break up but I want to be able to move forward.

 

I really just don't know what to expect. It's a fun casual date. We're going mini golfing and go carting. Should I pay for her stuff, should I try to go in for a kiss at the end of the night?

 

Any tips would be extremely helpful!

 

Doesn't sound like you're ready to date.

[amkxoxo]

I'm a girl so I would say definitely pay for stuff, but don't go overboard. Make it fun and more like friends hanging out. This will ease you into having a different girl around. Just be yourself (yeah it sounds cheesy) but don't talk or tell her about your other relationship. Definitely don't tell her about the ex-girlfriend. This could make her feel not as important and this date is 50% her too. You don't know what she has been through either, so don't be a heartbroken "feel bad for me" kind of guy, because she will probably like you for this sensitivity, but its all about you and your coping with a breakup which has nothing to do with her. Flirt a little, and I know you probably haven't done it in a while, but if your interested in her then show her. I wouldn't kiss on the first date, because it might be too soon for you. If you get a second date and you really like her, I definitely would. Goodluck!

[Lani]

I agree with paying for things, it shows you're interested in more than just a friendly day/night out. But only offer 3 times, if she still insists then let her pay.

As for the rest of it, just go with how you feel. Be playful and light hearted. Enjoy yourself because that is one of the most attractive things a man can do.

It sounds cliche, but you'll know if it's right to kiss her or not. There will be a moment or there won't, you can't plan that type of thing.

 

Most of all, have a good time.

Good luck

[VegasGuy]

Yes, pay for everything, if its something little and she insist on paying, let her.

 

If it was me, i usually set up first dates at places where we can have some drinks if we need it. I like having 1 or 2 drinks to loosen up and i find it helps my dates to relax as well.

 

If you are golfing and go carting, i suggest you taking her to a bar or a resturant afterwards for a drink or a bite to eat. NO PLACE EXPENSIVE OR TOO FANCY... you just met her, no need to put her on some pedestal where she only deserve the finest. If all goes well and you fall in love (or like a lot) with her, then you can take her to some fancy place.

 

Start off slow, some light touches here and there to see if how she responds (nothing creepy) Usually arms and waist is ok. Hand on the Small of her back when "helping her" though a door etc. I can't stress how important it is to touch her. Be casual and comfortable with it.

 

if she responds well to your touching and touches you back, then escalate the touches to arm around waist or shoulders. If that flies, then go for some hand holding if its applicable.

 

Invite her back to your place for a bottle of wine/champagne if all things are going well or great. If she says no its no big deal.

 

When you drop her off, or if she goes home with you. Go for the kiss (as long as all your touching was liked by her). And if the kiss happens, go for the sex.

 

Good luck man.

Edited June 21, 2013 by VegasGuy