irc333 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Just when I thought I was going to snag a face to face date with a woman, after a date agreement she is like "I'm not sure now if I have time this weekend to get together for anything". I swear I wonder if some people get their rocks off this online dating crap.
pyramid Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Did you have a specific day/time set for this weekend?
jcm101 Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 how old are you, OP? I'm 21 and OLD at least in my area, is a nightmare. I have better look with older women, actually on it. Most of them are there for attention. You message back and forth and then when it comes to trying to meet up, ask for their number, or actually schedule a meetup, they flake or stop responding. 1
Author irc333 Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 A lot of people get cold feet and sometimes online dating face-to-face meetings are plagued by a lot of 'false starts' before people get the courage to finally meet up. Alternatively, there are those who yes, are only interested in playing games, texting/emailing and phone calls without having any real intention of meeting. I'd say give her another shot, things do come up in people's lives but after that let it go. I thought about it, but she made a couple of "cocky" comments in regards to our conversation about getting together. I met her online last week, we emailed back and forth quite a few times, and then I asked for her #, she gave it to me without hesitation and said that she'd prefer to text more so than talk on the phone because she's always doing 10 things at once...follow that statement up with a "LOL". Usually I look for mild hints as to if she's going to be one of "those" people...the ones who claim to be always busy doing nothing. lol Their entire dialogue is always consisting of "I'm always on the go, things in my life are "crazy" right now" ....they even use it in regular non-dating conversation. Well, we had texted back and forth quite a few times and I finally decided to ask her when I'll call her to see what she sounds like...so she agreed and we talked a good while on the phone...at the end of the conversation she said something like, "MOst people don't get to talk to me on the phone, so consider this a privileged" Kind of a cocky remark, but didn't really read that much into it, I then said, "Oh okay, it was real nice talking to you, and when you get back from your camping trip mid we get together that weekend? And she agreed to it., though we didn't set a time and date, it was too far ahead at that point. We texted a few times while she was out camping. (it wasn't hard core camping, but more resort, RV camping) And yesterday she texted me saying she was home cleaning up her camping equipment.....we ttexted a bit then I asked her about getting together this weekend. She goes, "I don't think I can this weekend, because I always have stuff going on 'here and there'". "Here and there" she said...that pretty much sums up her life...when someone talks about how busy their lives and are vague about it, you know they could really care less about dating. Of course, she could've used something more specific like the old school 'washing her hair'. lol Then I said, "But I thought we agreed with us about getting together this weekend" And she said, "Good thing I didn't sign anything". Real cocky-like. She then said, "Darn, I can't do anything this weekend. Things happen". It almost felt like she telling me "F- you" in a covert way. So I sent her a note saying that "I don't think this is going to work, since you have a lot of things going on 'here and there' " all the time". Apparently the rest of her family lives across the street, and they are always milling in out of her house all the time, too. Even if I did date her, we'd never get any privacy. lol
Emilia Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 I think the way a conversation goes is down to two people. I know I'm stating the obvious here but what I mean is that your style will rub off on the other person and make them respond in a certain way and vice versa. It isn't just always the other person who screws up communications, more often it's a combo between two people. So if you chats keep ending up in the pan, it's 50% your fault.
TigerCub Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 irc I think you did the right thing by telling her that it's not gonna work. She didn't seem apologetic about not being able to meet, and she didn't really seem to care... so yeah, whatever, I'm glad that you just put an end to it then, instead of chasing some more and doing all the asking and the suggestions, etc... Better luck with the next one.
MidwestUSA Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 She's on her couch eating bon bons. She has no clothing that fits, and doesn't feel like taking a shower. Hasn't shaved her legs in months. Seriously, people that carry on about how busy there are really aren't. Next!
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 I think the way a conversation goes is down to two people. I know I'm stating the obvious here but what I mean is that your style will rub off on the other person and make them respond in a certain way and vice versa. It isn't just always the other person who screws up communications, more often it's a combo between two people. So if you chats keep ending up in the pan, it's 50% your fault. This is terrible advice and 100% wrong. It's a cop out to excuse her poor behavior. That woman lacks common decency and is basically just a c*nt. No fault of the OP's at all.
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