arthus1 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 I'm terribly lonely, I'm too mentally f#*@#d to go to school or work (extreme depression I get money from welfare). And I hate church. Yes I've look thoroughly on meetup and there is nothing for my age (20) in my area, even outdoor groups don't want anyone thats under 21. I've check all interest groups nobody remotely my age goes to. I want a girlfriend! I want to talk to girls, talking to guys doesn't help I still feel lonely, loneliness goes away when I talk to girls. Dance clubs are to f#*%(!g loud to talk to any girls. I'M COMPLETELY LOSING MY MIND!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao: I don't know what to do..... - Loneliest person on Earth.
swimswithjeans Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 I don't know what to say to you... But... Really... You need to try and enjoy your life as much as you can. Really you'll have a hard time loving someone if you don't love yourself. It is statistically almost impossible that you will spend your life alone. Just put yourself out there and try and be the best version of yourself that you can. And when you find that someone... It will be SO worth it. 1
CC12 Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Yes I've look thoroughly on meetup and there is nothing for my age (20) in my area, even outdoor groups don't want anyone thats under 21. Show up anyway. Nobody is going to card you. Probably the only reason they chose 21 as the cut-off age is because alcohol is sometimes involved. Just don't drink and don't go the the meetups at bars.
leongrado Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Gain some self-esteem. Work out. Try to find a better job. Continue studying. If you don't live yourself, it's very hard for others to do so either. 1
scubasteve Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Dude you lack confidence. No wonder why you're depress, sad lonely. You need to stop looking for love and let love come find you.
davyvfr Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Dude you lack confidence. No wonder why you're depress, sad lonely. You need to stop looking for love and let love come find you. Yep, he definitely lacks a lot of self confidence. How are you going to love somebody if you can't even love yourself??? I would suggest going to the gym and building up self esteem. Also, go to college if you have not done so, it's never too late.
Nistan Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 OP: Halp I am sick!!! Average response: Gain confidence!!! LOL, are you guys for real?!?! To OP: As you are suffering from a depression, you should focus on that first. Do take any meds? If no, maybe you should? Another idea: Find a support group for these things. Talk to people that are suffering under depression as well.
DannyMason Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 Get physically fit. That'll work wonders for you.
leongrado Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 OP: Halp I am sick!!! To OP: As you are suffering from a depression, you should focus on that first. Do take any meds? If no, maybe you should? Another idea: Find a support group for these things. Talk to people that are suffering under depression as well. Yeah that's a good point. Self-esteem comes after. Maybe go to a psychologist about your issues and see what they say to you.
ThroneofTerra Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 I have indeed been there buddy. There is nothing so frustrating in this life than to watch everyone else speed through life seemingly without a care in the world,while you have to content yourself with what little you have. I almost gave into that despair once,during a time when I had no friends,didn't even have a phone or internet access to talk to other people about what I was dealing with. I survived that,and kept on with life,doing what I could. The first time I ever asked a girl out,she accepted...and then when it came time for the date,she only then told me she was married. Since then, I've learned and done a lot,and experienced a lot of frustration,not just with girls,but a lot of stuff. This can be a cruel world,brother,but remember you are never alone.One thing I have learned is that there is no grand strategy,no one thing that will work."Be yourself" is an oversimplification. You have to be brave. Don't even THINK about the possibility of rejection,because if you do,you'll psyche yourself out of it. I know I have. Focus on your key strengths. I never thought I had a key strength,either,until I found I could make just about anyone laugh with situational humor,something that girls love. Maybe your strength lies in making the people around you happy. Also,if you have trouble meeting people because you don't work and stuff,it's OK. There are ways around that. One way is to play video games online or to find something like a hobby shop that has comic books or tabletop RPGs. You have find common ground that brings you and other people together.The girl you're looking for won't come from where you think she will,and random encounters are the stuff relationships are built on. Never give up buddy,there are many people in this world going through the same thing--and worse. Keep posting ,brother,and I'll keep trying to help you,okay?Don't be afraid to ask questions. And don't listen to some of the other people who responded to your post,they have no idea what it's like, and therefore have no idea what they're talking about. Yeah,people,I said it. 2
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