Commitmentphobe just stopped contact out of the blue....what do I do guys? :(

[HappyendGirl]

So i'm dating this guy and months ago I told him I'm in love with him and all he said back was that he is in denial about having feelings for me.Basically he has strong feelings but doesnt want to have these feelings so he's wrestling with them :(He also told me he has commitment issues and he distances himself and that he was hurt in the past.Also he comes from a divorced home.

 

After staying at his place for a whole week in feb he suddenly stopped talking to me as much,I felt like i was the only one initiating and he started to sound very mean,he'd say mean things and finally he told me he doesn't want this relationship and I should move on and find a good guy because he's worried about me.And he was mean to me because he was trying to push me away.He has also told me many times that he feels like he's not good enough.

 

After he said that, i stopped initiating contact for a week,i thought he finally broke up with me but then he texts me and tells me he's sorry for being mean and he doesnt want me to move on.After that we continue talking but still not as often as we did and last month he completely stopped contacting me,the last thing I texted him was how are you doing and he still hasnt responded and its been a month and i dont want to initiate anymore,i'm really tired of this.I love him so much and idk what to do.Since I know that he doesnt like himself,etc. should i continue proving to him that i love him and wont leave him or should i just wait for him?IS there a chance he'll be back?

 

I keep feeling guilt everyday I dont contact him but at the same time i know i've done nothing wrong,but i still keep blaming myself :(Guys what should i do?He's being mean to me on purpose,he's pushing me away.what do i do in this situation ?

Edited June 20, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[McGriff]

Hmmm, tough situation. Being a guy, I'd put money there's someone else. Usually, when a guy says he's not "good enough" for you, or you need to find "somebody better" or "I'm a commitment-phobe" it's because he's doing things he knows he shouldn't be doing ie seeing other people, and knows he's gonna hurt you if/when you find out. I think you are doing the right thing by not initiating anything. Live your life, let him enjoy the silence, and command respect.