corn_yuer Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 (edited) I met this guy at a church a few months back...we had a friendly little chat and I stopped going for a few weeks. then i met him again at a church event, he seems a little shy so i went up to him and added him on facebook. he msged me on facebook the second day saying hope to see me more often and we exchanged phone number. so we were txting each other almost everyday on random topics...he helped me with job searching...and i invited him to come out for a drink. he told me that his department is hiring..so i asked him to consider me and he rejected me because he doesn't want to work with a girl he potentially wants to date. during our casual drink he also told me that he's slow to warm up and just ended an on and off 10 year relationship last year. I met him at church a few days later...he seemed very distant all of a sudden...and i txted him asking why he acted that way he said he was just tired...and the reason he seemed a little reluctant was because he didn't want to develop things too fast...he said he thought i'm pretty and wanted to be friends and see how things go. after that he still txts me...he invited me to watch movie with his friends twice...and he helped me a lot with my job searching. he seemed keen after we went out for movie..once he even txted me in the morning to wake me up....but in general he doesn't contact me frequently....his best buddy was very keen to pull us closer but his attitudes towards me is very inconsistent. I don't know what to do and i appreciate any kind advice Edited June 20, 2013 by corn_yuer
Ami1uwant Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 You have to see the details of this past relationship of 10 years he was refering to. When someone coms out of a long marriage/relationshp like that they arent sure if they are ready to date...and in his cae he may have no idea hgow to date as an adult if he is younger than is early 30s. He sounds like he is interested in you but isnt sure in himself on him being ready to dates. IF his breakup was hard on him---like out of the blue he caught her cheating on him or he just left him without any closure it will take him long to be ready to date. the only way you know if you are ready is by dating. If you know his buddy--maybe talk to him and find out more info about his past. 1
Author corn_yuer Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 You have to see the details of this past relationship of 10 years he was refering to. When someone coms out of a long marriage/relationshp like that they arent sure if they are ready to date...and in his cae he may have no idea hgow to date as an adult if he is younger than is early 30s. He sounds like he is interested in you but isnt sure in himself on him being ready to dates. IF his breakup was hard on him---like out of the blue he caught her cheating on him or he just left him without any closure it will take him long to be ready to date. the only way you know if you are ready is by dating. If you know his buddy--maybe talk to him and find out more info about his past. i dunno his buddy well..but we went out for dinner once...his buddy was so keen to pull us together...
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