somerandomnobody Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 I split with my partner 2 years ago. I had 1 young child with her and she had a child from a previous relationship. We had been together for about 12 years! She cheated on me. We have stayed in touch due to me seeing my son weekly, of course, and she has often had a bit of a bitter attitude towards me. This made me think she was still screwed up about all that happened. I confronted her about it two weeks ago and stated that I should be bitter and angry not her! Anyway, the other night she texted me saying - Its been 2 years! I just wanted you to know how sorry I am and still to this day hate myself for what I did to our family. I'm pleased for you that you have been able to move on as you deserve to be happy x. So, what do you people think her motivation behind this text message is!!! I dont really know how to respond (its been a few days) as I'm still a bit raw about the whole thing TBH and miss her and the kids a lot! At the same time she crushed me!!! She's been in and out of relationships for the past 2 years, dragging the kids along with her new guy(s). So, just some general feedback on the message she sent is all I'm after, I need a different perspective. Although saying that I'm not about to jump out there and say all is forgiven lets try again - far from it TBH!!! Thanks in advance
BC1980 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 She might really feel guilty and felt the need to apologize. She might be testing the waters to see if you are still interested in her. It's probably a combination of both. The interest may not be genuine but just an ego boost. There really is no way to tell what a person's motivations are. Also, does it matter to you at this point that she is sorry. Sometimes, you harden your heart, and it doesn't matter too much what the person has to say. It's really easy to say you are sorry; we do it all the time. It's easy to carry regret. What is not easy is to change your actions. I don't know that you are going to find some big answer to her reason why, and it may not matter. I guess the question is do you care enough at this point to have any type of relationship with her besides being parents. I don't even mean romantic but just any relationship.
marqueemoon4 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Totally assuaging guilt. I guess it's better than nothing.
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