Tnv Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 So im 13 (i know young age don't judge) and i had made plans with a girl i like (14) and her sisters to go to the movies yesterday. They said they'd have to ask their mom. I was contacted later that night by her older sister and she said that her mom was against the idea since it was unproductive. She told me that the girl i like really wanted to see the movie, so i suggested that i ask her on a "date" so her mom would have to let her go. She said that her mom would never say yes to it, and that she wasn't that desperate. Then she said that she hopes i dont take it personally, and that it was awkward. Now this is where it gets confusing. My original intention was to simply take her to the movies, labeling it as a date so she could go. I was going to ask her on a real date next month, though now she made it feel like i just asked her out. Since she has 5 siblings, she is still seen as a kid by her mom. Her sister said they were a package deal. Now, what im confused about is that she didnt say no, but didnt say yes. Just that her mom would never say yes to that. So what should I do? Ive created an awkward situation, and i see her every sunday at church. Im going to her house for her sisters graduation party next sat, and i want to know what i should tell her.
LinangelyKerbs Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Hey TNV, Maybe you should apologize to her mom, and mention your intentions...parents like it when someone reveals their true intentions when it comes to their kids. I say just be her friend. Hang out with the family. Not judging you, but you are 13...get lots of friends, hangout in groups. Trust me it's fun!
Author Tnv Posted June 20, 2013 Author Posted June 20, 2013 Hey TNV, Maybe you should apologize to her mom, and mention your intentions...parents like it when someone reveals their true intentions when it comes to their kids. I say just be her friend. Hang out with the family. Not judging you, but you are 13...get lots of friends, hangout in groups. Trust me it's fun! No, she is just assuming that her mom would say no. She never actually asked. Also, I try to hang out with the family, but theyre mom only supports productive things, and i think that her dad is fine with everything. What i plan on doing is apologizing to her for causing discomfort, then see if they want to go to the zoo or something, since the zoo is apparently more productive.
dollyllama Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Yeah, I'd just play it cool right now. I think mom's "productive" bent is maybe more that she doesn't want her baby girl dating just yet. Sounds like she has a big, protective family. If you are really into this girl, why don't you ask her mom or dad directly? Even invite them to the movie (if they sit way in the back ). Maybe after a few chaperoned or group dates, mom will loosen up. But maybe not. You can consider this a wonderful lesson for the future. Timing. Sometimes the right person just isn't available and the best you can do is move on!
Phantom888 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 I was contacted later that night by her older sister and she said that her mom was against the idea since it was unproductive. Here's an idea. Why don't you be productive and knock her up?
Ripnet Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 So im 13 (i know young age don't judge) and i had made plans with a girl i like (14) and her sisters to go to the movies yesterday. They said they'd have to ask their mom. I was contacted later that night by her older sister and she said that her mom was against the idea since it was unproductive. She told me that the girl i like really wanted to see the movie, so i suggested that i ask her on a "date" so her mom would have to let her go. She said that her mom would never say yes to it, and that she wasn't that desperate. Then she said that she hopes i dont take it personally, and that it was awkward. Now this is where it gets confusing. My original intention was to simply take her to the movies, labeling it as a date so she could go. I was going to ask her on a real date next month, though now she made it feel like i just asked her out. Since she has 5 siblings, she is still seen as a kid by her mom. Her sister said they were a package deal. Now, what im confused about is that she didnt say no, but didnt say yes. Just that her mom would never say yes to that. So what should I do? Ive created an awkward situation, and i see her every sunday at church. Im going to her house for her sisters graduation party next sat, and i want to know what i should tell her. Maybe you can ask to go to library together? I don't think she can say it's unproductive. Maybe you two can learn something new and maybe later on the mom might change her mind.
Author Tnv Posted June 21, 2013 Author Posted June 21, 2013 an art class maybe? (I'm an artist lol) Thanks for the suggestion, however we live in different areas, roughly 20 min apart, so she goes to a different school than me. That plus transportation is kinda difficult to get, since we're like 14 and both our parents are very busy.
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