theonlyjuan Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Post something positive about your day? It might be another day of NC, new job, date, new friend, found new activity, new song you like, new movie. Maybe you just feel in a better mood for no reason? I like to hear of people doing well and moving forward, even if it's a small step forward. It all counts in the end. 2
headsashed Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Im about 13 month NC, feeling great and today is even better because im having a day off from work so im relaxing allllllllllllllllllll day 1
Hockeyguy19 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 I have baseball tonight and I just bought 7th row tickets to my favorite band this morning for a November concert, it's a better day!
Hopeinme Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 2nd month of NC - I dont feel as bad As I thought I would be anymore! Living each day as it comes with a smile 1
CaliBabe Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Feeling very blessed today. I have a job, I have my health, and I have my family. Life is good baby! 3
Minneloa Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Made a choice yesterday to get out of my sulky sweatpants (literally and figuratively); showered, put on a cute sundress, and ate breakfast (cereal with blueberries) The day went much better with just a few small changes! 1
L1ght Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Feeling very blessed today. I have a job, I have my health, and I have my family. Life is good baby! Agreed! life is good and we have a million reasons to be happy *breathes the air* feels good to be alive. 3
BustedUpInside Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 going on a date on Saturday. Starting graduate school in the fall, and am starting to get in really good shape. All in all, I look and feel better than I have in almost a decade. 2
OrangeSnack Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 "There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind." -CS Lewis 3
Hopeinme Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 "There are far better things ahead than any we leave behind." -CS Lewis Oh I love this!!
StraylightRun24 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 This is a good thread theonlyjuan! I'm grateful to have amazing people in my life that have supported me and given me words of encouragement these past few months, which obviously have been extremely rough. This site and fellow posters have also been amazing. Without the recently (and not so recently) brokenhearted giving sound advice and telling your stories I have no doubt I would have broken NC. So thanks to all you guys! 1
mahon451 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 1. 3 weeks NC. And not even on purpose. I've just been too gorram busy to bother really even thinking about the ex much. 2. I looked in the mirror this morning, and said, "Dang, mahon451- you are one sexy beast." 3. I get to go to one of my favorite open mics tonight, where I will probably play some cheesy 80s songs acoustically. That always makes people laugh, which makes me happy. 4. I'm sure there's something I'm forgetting, but I feel pretty decent today regardless. 1
Sneaky Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Nearing three weeks no contact. Also won ten bucks on a scratch lottery ticket, woo. 2
Mws Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 I finally got help for my anxiety disorder and it feels amazing. NEVER have i ever been so happy and that I would be able to overcome this. 1
sb129 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 My baby daughter smiled and cooed alot at me this morning, she is developing her own little personality and its very cute! My older daughter is a great big sister and very funny. AND my husband looked after them both last night so I could go out with some girlfriends. 2
bluegreen Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Am over him how is that for positive thing babe eh ?
aloneinaz Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Tomorrow is 3wks NC and each day brings the realization that it's SSSOO for the best. I'm thankful she really showed her true colors and character the past 3-4 months. It's made this bad relationship so much easier to put in the rear view mirror. Also, i had a great date last night that ended with a VERY happy ending for both of us! Seeing her again tonight as well and think she's going to be great to hang out with and date. She knows I'm freshly out of a lousy relationship and I'm not going to be in a hurry to get serious. So, alls good. 1
aloneinaz Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Can I ask a question? I'm not in a rush for anything to be serious either, I'm just heading out on this date because the guy seems nice, and the first one post bust-up is always hard. I'm not big on the 'ex' conversation on the first couple of dates, so when he asks what I'm looking for, is it ok to say I'm out meeting new people, I'm in no rush, and what happens, happens? Funny you ask , my date asked me "what am I looking for too last night". I think what I told her was; I'm in no hurry to jump right back into a serious relationship but.. if it happens naturally, then great. I told her I'm looking for a long term relationship, thought my last one could be it but, ultimately it wasn't to be so, here I am in the dating world. I was VERY honest with her when she asked if I was over her. I said "of course not", it's still pretty fresh but ultimantly, we're not compatiable and this is why I'm moving forward. She was real cool about it too. 1
aloneinaz Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Cool. I'll keep it fairly non-committal and vague then. If that's not good enough, then no problems. How long have you been single again?
aloneinaz Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 A couple of months. Naughty metal_chick has 'rebound' written all over her... Sometimes you gotta to do what ya gotta do! I asked about how long you've been single again because I usually ask that question too. If I girl said two months or more, I'd feel good that she'd be over it and the only other question I might ask is what happened? I've been on other dates where girls where straight up and told me their last relationship ended a couple of weeks ago. So, I think a lot of people jump back into the dating scene. Have fun and remember MC, SAFE SEX gurl!
seahawker64 Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 I got more done today than I have in 4 months. I thoroughly cleaned my house. I feel like I'm getting back on track before I got involved with her again. For me that's a big deal. I let soooo much slide because I was so bummed by the whole thing but little by little I notice the old me is starting to show his head again. I think that's a positive...I hope....maybe...ha! 2
aloneinaz Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Hehehe! I'm not looking beyond a few drinks and a nice chat at this stage. Sometimes you don't know if you're ready to date, until you go on a date. If afterwards, I feel too much pressure, I'll give it a few more weeks and try again. You never know, those couple of drinks could sway your whole outlook on the date. I've had five dates w/four gals in the past week. My mind set was to simply go have fun. Enjoy the company of the opposite sex. I honestly didnt think about my ex during the dates. The girl last night and i had GREAT chemistry on the phone and texting. We ended up at my place taking advantage of each other. Again, didn't think of the ex at all. It was also nice to now say my ex wasn't my last sex partner. I wasn't sure how I'd feel about it but it FELT GREAT. 1
aloneinaz Posted June 21, 2013 Posted June 21, 2013 Yeah, I've set my birthday (September) - between now and then, there's going to be a 'sexorcism'. I bought new bed linen, so the space is cleansed... now there's just me left... "sexorcism"! Love it!! I'll share one last thing. They say after a break up that you forget all the BS the ex brought to the table and only remember the good, or put them on a pedestal. I thought my ex was pretty good under the sheets. Um, no. This new girl does EVERYTHING better in the bedroom. Just another reminder for people out there who say "I'll never find someone as good in the bedroom, or as loving, or as..." That's plain BS. 1
Author theonlyjuan Posted June 22, 2013 Author Posted June 22, 2013 I got my tattoo done, it's awesome! Already catching attention from the ladies. Good times
s.a.i.n.t. Posted June 22, 2013 Posted June 22, 2013 In the last month girls are noticing me, giving their numbers when i don't even ask which never happens! I been going to gym EVERYDAY for a month, everyone asking how did i get so powerful so quick! I signed up for classes for school in fall to take up time and get a 2nd job. Always wanted a bike screw getting one in less than a week.
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