chaychay Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Ok so I guess I kind of know my ex doesn't want me after he kissed me, but im still in denial, I keep thinking he'll realise and come back soon. And I dont think ill ever fall out of love with him because for some reason I feel like I love and miss him more as each day goes by. Ive tried a lot of things even taken up hobbies, but hes still always on my mind, I even had to change the specific type of songs I listen to, ive even stopped listening to music for a while aswell. Everything reminds me of him. I dont know what to do , a lot of things id love to do also remind me of him because we would do that stuff together, places remind me of him, clothes remind me of him, and even my home reminds me of him, im sick of this feeling it just wont go away and I dont know what to do. Ive lost my apetite I dont even want to get out of bed anymore. I just want it to go away, it's been 9 months and this feeling keeps coming back stronger. The worst thing is even some guys remind me of him -_- is that weird? I really dont even know I cant seem to understand myself.
TheWhitestRice Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Stay strong and carry on. The best thing that you can do for yourself at this moment in time is to keep pushing. Don't drop other things in your life because of him. You WILL feel better, it just takes time. I'm sure that you feel helpless and stuck in a rut... I've been there. We all have. 1
MrGray Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 9 months ? Jesus and i thouafter day 5 it was hard... Im on the same boat as you...its very difficulut to deal with... Im not more than a week home from a dream holiday with the ex ( Miami , NYC , Washington , Key West) and now were over... The holiday was our last chance , our fresh start , and i ****ed it. I did my usual... I know how you feel now...and i know it hurts. We just have to stay strong...there really is nothign else for it. Im sorry for how you feel... But i feel your pain...
Leigh 87 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 I know how it feels. My ex initiated sex with me, yet he had no interest in getting back together with me, either. He was not periodically using me for sex, either; it was a once time thing. After weeks of hanging out without it. He wad clear that he did not want o be with me, nor have sex with me. He was just drunk and super horny, and wanted sex with me. This was weeks ago and I know better now. It is so hard, I know. I feel for you. It will get better. Time, No Contact, and throwing yourself into your own life, will help you move on. If you are doing all the right things to move on, you should not feel like this in months from now. You may need extra help, in the form of therapy, to move on.
Leigh 87 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Hang on. It has been 9 months. Man... You really should not be feeling like this every day, nine months after the break up..... You definitely need therapy. Everyone takes different time frames to get over an ex. Sure. Yet, if it is MONTHS after and you cannot get out of bed because of him, there is something that you need a bit of extra help with. A professional therapist can help you get on with your life. Being depressed and wanting to stay in bed all day every day, is not normal. When you're in a first world country with no impending doom or dire life situation. You may have a chemical imbalance. I strongly urge you to seek professional help. I lost a guy I am madly in love with, and I do not even struggle to get up each day. And it is only a couple of months post break up.
Leegh Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 You will get over him. It has taken me three years to get over guys in the past, and some of them were not long relationships. Obviously, you liked this guy a lot, so it will take longer, but take a day at a time, and eventually one day you will think to yourself that you hadn't thought about him all day. Just hang in there.
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