gomea Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 (edited) I met this guy about three and a half weeks ago online. Pretty shortly after we met, we started talking on the phone and texting each other everyday. Mainly initiated by him. Only downside is that we leave in different states. After about nearly 2 weeks of knowing each other he flew out to see me for a few days. Things were amazing with him! It's been a really long time since I felt that comfortable with someone as if I've known him for a long time. I met his friends who live around where I live and spent a lot of quality time together while he was in town. Thing were going great through phone and texting but even better in person. He was very affectionate and holding my hands, kissing me even in front of his friends. It's been a while since I felt secured about how a guy feels about me. We talked our lives, family, past relationships, etc. We both know we really like each other and briefly talked about our "status." We both agreed that it is too soon to really know where things would go since we did just meet but we both want to continue talking and see each other again. He still goes to school (medical field) and he warned me that he is going to be very busy and usually doesnt text people when he's studying. When I took him to the airport, we parted with us saying we'll miss each other and already planning when to see each other next. He called me while he was waiting at the airport and he thanked me for an amazing weekend. I didnt hear from him the next day as he goes back to school and i know he'd be busy and tired. He texted me the next day to apologize for not texting and i thought that was very considerate of him to do. I responded but never got a response from him. I sent a picture of something i thought he'd like and no response. No big deal, i figured he was busy. We talked briefly on facebook that night and he reassured me that he wasnt ignoring me and he's just really busy. I didnt hear from him for a couple days and i finally thought id contact him and see how he's doing. I texted and no response. I called later in the day and still no response. This is when i started worrying. After 2 days, he texted me with a simple "hi" but after two texts, he stopped responding. Im getting the feeling maybe the text wasnt even meant for me. I mean why would you start texting someone and then just stop talking in the middle of the conversation? What bothers me is that he's been on facebook many times. He didnt acknowledge not responding and missing my call either. Now im paranoid, is he getting my texts? Am i not getting his texts? Question is, should i try and contact him one more time or just wait until he says something? Please help! Im so bummed! Edited June 20, 2013 by gomea
melodicintention Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 NEVER chase after a guy. This guy isn't interested and is hardly worth fretting over. Move on and wait until you find a guy who wants to chase after you. Two people can't be "it" in a game of tag. If two people chase each other at the same time, they will smack into each other. Decide do you want: to pursue men all the time, or do you want men to pursue you. Then play the role you want for real. 1
travelbug1996 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Classic hot and cold behavior. Google it. Did you have sex with him?? If so, chalk it up as a loss, seek the lesson and move forward. You fall for people before you get to know them. That's backwards. Trust me I've done it for decades and I finally get it. Forget about him. Do not contact him. 1
Ami1uwant Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Sorry...but he wasnt all that interested in you so he poofed on you or moved on. ITs also likely he is dating other women currently. He was willing to meet you probably because he is connected in some way to your area. for whatever reason he didnt find you attractive enough for his liking.
FaithInTheDark Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Ive been in a similar situation. Its beyond confusing when you hit it off with a new man, he acts like hes really into you than backs off completely. My advice is to try and not get your mind and heart too deep and mixed up in this like i did. In guilty of falling for someone you bearly know too. Maybe he is busy.maybe he lost intetest. Let him come to you but dont jump if he suddenly gives you the time of day. Dont take any crap fm him. Like i said i was pretty well in the exact same situation and i got so wrapped in him. We spent quality time together he told me he wanted to be with me..then i got so attached i dobt know uf i chased him away or was just the flavor of the week. Either way check yourself before u wteck urself. ..if he does come around be straight up with him.
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