InsaneTrombone Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 I had planned on having a single rose waiting on the table for her at the restaurant. We both find eachother attractive and have said we like eachother already. Is this too soon on a second date? Would you women appreciate this or is it too cliche? Age 21. 2
Phantom888 Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 I totally agree. Especially since there is already understanding that you are attracted to each other. DO IT! 3
todreaminblue Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 when i was aboutu nineteen, i remember dating a guy who came to my work with this beautifu potted african violet...he knew i liked them so he bought me this because i am not a fan of cut flowers..i think cut flowers are beautiful but they make me a little sad........i prefer to see them alive and growing not cut off and not dying but thats me............i thought it was beautiful thought........and he was a real gentleman........its a lovely thought that you have, i agree with the poster above...dont let anyone tell you different......deb 1
Ami1uwant Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Dont do it---you set your bar to high......she will later on get upset you didnt give you flowers.
2sure Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 So you would have the waitstaff find a single stem vase and put it in there prior to dinner? Or leave it wrapped on the table? Unless I'm at home, I would have no idea what to do with it. It's nice, I'm not saying no, but ...what to do with it?
Author InsaneTrombone Posted June 19, 2013 Author Posted June 19, 2013 So you would have the waitstaff find a single stem vase and put it in there prior to dinner? Or leave it wrapped on the table? Unless I'm at home, I would have no idea what to do with it. It's nice, I'm not saying no, but ...what to do with it? Just wrapped on the table waiting for us to be seated. She doesn't even need to take it with her, the reaction would be good enough for me. 5
Ripnet Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 From my experience I surely wouldn't do it. Wait several months. Giving a rose on a second date is moving too fast.
2sure Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Just wrapped on the table waiting for us to be seated. She doesn't even need to take it with her, the reaction would be good enough for me. Perfect, do it. 1
Ripnet Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 (edited) So you would have the waitstaff find a single stem vase and put it in there prior to dinner? Or leave it wrapped on the table? Unless I'm at home, I would have no idea what to do with it. It's nice, I'm not saying no, but ...what to do with it? Good point. Probably best way is to pick her up at her place, she can take some time to put the flower in a vase. The only problem is giving a red rose means I love you, that's way too soon for a second date. Edited June 19, 2013 by Ripnet
Estate Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Before the rest of the doom and gloom naysayers arrive to p*ss all over your parade (and they WILL), I wanted to tell you that it's an absolutely LOVELY idea. Hey, I might be in the older age bracket now, but I clearly remember how touching it was when a man would make such a lovely, romantic gesture when I clearly was not expecting it. Do it. And don't let them tell you any different. Yes, I absolutely will be one of those naysayers. It's a 2nd date... life is not a disney movie... 99% of women will think you're a nut. if she's part of the 1%, you're a lucky guy. 1
Mike W Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Personally, I'd wait for #3. I'd also go with something other than a rose. Your call though, if you want to, go for it.
henderson14 Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 Well it depends on the woman, but I would say probably not. What women say they want and what they actually want are two different things. She will thank you and say you were sweet, but she might lose a little respect for you. When you dating your supposed to be getting to know each other, not buy her affection with gifts. She's 21 and just wants to have a good time with you and get to know you. A rose is just kind of lame and you will look like too much of a "nice guy." You know what happens to nice guys don't you? If I had to guess 4 out of 5 times it will make you look lame and she will lose a little respect for you. 1 out of 5 it will IMPROVE your chances with her.
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 I wouldn't think twice about doing this myself, if you feel like that's what's right to do in that moment then do it, don't question yourself or worry about failure...you won't be the first or last guy to do that...and there's always some risk involved w romantic gestures, just don't go overboard w it, and keep it more thoughtful than grandiose. 2
TheWhitestRice Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 I think it's a good idea, but it depends on how long you two have known each other also. By all means, go for it. If she doesn't appreciate it, then you'll have a better idea of how she feels about you. 1
RedRobin Posted June 19, 2013 Posted June 19, 2013 (edited) OP, very sweet! A single flower is quite thoughtful. and for the others here... I notice that a lot of you are A-OK diving in for a kiss with someone you just met... wanted or unwanted... yet it is too far beyond you to be a little gracious?!! And show a little class? Edited June 20, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 3
pyramid Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 If she's really into you, she will love it. If she's on the fence she will be creeped out and you probably won't hear from her again.
NoMoreJerks Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 I had planned on having a single rose waiting on the table for her at the restaurant. We both find eachother attractive and have said we like eachother already. Is this too soon on a second date? Would you women appreciate this or is it too cliche? Age 21. I donno. Mixed feelings. I guess it depends on the guy and the level of attraction to and comfort around him. But I would at least appreciate the effort, even if it might make me a little bit uncomfortable.
rocketman122 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 dont listen to those who say no. its very romantic. I always brought one to women I dated and the reaction was always positive. I wouldnt even want to date a women who would have a weird reaction. it never happened but I would not call the next day. but I alwys seem to date women who like guys who know how to court a women with old school style eh, what do I do with it? shove it up your azz! sheesh. some people are clueless about dating and romance. its not an engagement ring!! its a freakin rose. its a nice gesture. it shows he interested in you. god, some women just suck! no wonder youre single. personally though OP, I would give it to her when I first gave her a hug. 2
Cutiepie1976 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Unless I'm at home, I would have no idea what to do with it. It's nice, I'm not saying no, but ...what to do with it? I think it's a great idea, but this is the potential issue. I've never known quite what to do with flowers I get in a restaurant on early dates. I prefer to get them when you pick me up at home, so one option would be to save the idea for the first time you pick her up. That being said, when I've been on the fence and the guy brought flowers or a small gift (e.g. chocolates), it's gotten him another date. Rather than feeling creeped out, I've been impressed by his thoughtfulness and given things a little more time to develop. Since it's a single flower, and it will be lying in the table, I think it will be sweet. I would love it! 1
Woggle Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 OP, very sweet! A single flower is quite thoughtful. and for the others here... I notice that a lot of you are A-OK diving in for a kiss with someone you just met... wanted or unwanted... yet it is too far beyond you to be a little gracious?!! And show a little class? You have a point but the fact is that in most cases this gesture would kill the attraction dead. It's mostly seen as corny and something to be laughed at.
SJC2008 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 OP, very sweet! A single flower is quite thoughtful. and for the others here... I notice that a lot of you are A-OK diving in for a kiss with someone you just met... wanted or unwanted... yet it is too far beyond you to be a little gracious?!! And show a little class? That's because we live in a culture where it's easier to screw like jack rabbits than to ask about the relationship, or show gestures and emotion. 2
MidwestUSA Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Really? People are wondering what you would do with a single rose? Carry it, stick it in your purse or where Rocketman said! Better yet, let her hand it to the first person she comes across who looks like they've had a bad day. Share the love. It's a sweet, romantic gesture, and if it freaks her out, it's HER problem. 2
RedRobin Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 You have a point but the fact is that in most cases this gesture would kill the attraction dead. It's mostly seen as corny and something to be laughed at. ... or a useful screening tool for weeding out women who would find simple gestures of kindness or thoughtfulness to be off-putting or 'unmanly'. Very useful...
Woggle Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 Really? People are wondering what you would do with a single rose? Carry it, stick it in your purse or where Rocketman said! Better yet, let her hand it to the first person she comes across who looks like they've had a bad day. Share the love. It's a sweet, romantic gesture, and if it freaks her out, it's HER problem. It used to be a sweet and romantic gesture. Now it is just seen as creepy and corny.
SJC2008 Posted June 20, 2013 Posted June 20, 2013 It used to be a sweet and romantic gesture. Now it is just seen as creepy and corny. Sad but true for most people. I could do this as a weird out test lol. I'll Bring a rose to a first date and keep doing so until I meet a woman who doesn't weird out and once I do I'll know I've met the one!
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