The Way I Am Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 I didnt mean it as in did she know if my library had the book that was just in general. She could have just said oh I'm not sure or you'd have to buy it not That was pretty much my point. That's all she *could* have said. Since you already know the answer, why did you even bother asking the question? IMO, it wasn't a question worth answering. I suggested you get 2 copies - one for your husband to read and one for you to read - TOGETHER - so you can talk about it TOGETHER. Are you going to do that? Just like she said a dog with a bone. This wasnt said nicely . Instead of answering a question you should obviously know the answer to but asked anyway, she included an additional suggestion. Have you never explained something to someone, and then a bit later in the conversation had them say something that made you think, "oh, I should clarify that you should do xyz"? You chose to interpret it as not nice. She called herself the dog, not you. You're the bone in the analogy. Dogs like bones and don't want to give them up -- or give up on them in this case. I can see why you would be upset by some of the harsher things said, and maybe you're interpreting Annie's comments as more harsh than they were because they were intermixed with those and she didn't outright disagree with them. But Anne's comments weren't mean or childish. Even though she disagreed with it, she accepted your choice not to tell your husband and was trying to offer alternative suggestions to fit your decision. I think you did yourself a disservice interpreting her comments the way you did and giving up. Good luck to you.
anne1707 Posted June 27, 2013 Posted June 27, 2013 Yeah the reply to the book one was pretty childish IMO. Well on that basis, I am definitely out of here. All I have done is tried to help and you have thrown it back in my face. I think you need to take a good hard long look at yourself. If you really think everything is good in your marriage when your initial post on this site was about how you think you may be in love with MOM then I am staggered. You have done nothing to help improve your marriage and the attitude you demonstrate here where you get angry or sulk with advice you don't like has ensured that a lot of people here have given up on trying to help you. I have stuck with it all this time, trying to be patient and not being insulting. Yet you call me childish. As someone else said - pot, kettle. Good luck Betsy, you need it. After all, you are not depending on anything else other than luck in saving your marriage and ending the affair.
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